How to get over the best sex of your life?!

[AmayaJ]

My relationship ended a couple of months ago and as if that wasn't enough to deal with, it was the best sex of my life! Now it's gone. Forever 😭
I'm 99.9% sure nobody else is ever going to be able to fuck me like that. What do I do? I feel I will forever compare all future sex and it's just not going to come close. I feel like if I get into another relationship I'm just not going to be satisfied in the sex department. It makes me so sad to think I will have to settle for 'ok' sex.
Yes I am horny, antsy and a little drunk right now and this is a bit tongue in cheek, I know there is more to a relationship than sex, but at the same time this is a very real and genuine concern of mine.....

I could have written @Littlefluffyclouds13 post. But before I met dh I had a relationship that blew my mind. The chemistry between us was amazing. It wasn’t a relationship that could last but he was very hard to give up.

I spoke to some friends about it, but they really didn’t understand. They saw sexual connection as something that grows and develops over time (true) but obviously hadn’t experienced anything this primal. I wasn’t inclined to get into discussions about it. I don’t think it’s something many people get to experience.

It ruined me for other relationships. I just couldn’t settle with anyone else. The difference was too stark. I couldn’t be bothered with men really.

But actually, I think I had just discovered something important that I needed in a relationship. Before I met dh, I had opportunities along the way that I could have made a go of. But I stayed single and I’m so, so glad I did.

Dh and I don’t really make sense as a couple because on paper we have very little in common, but we just fit together. We have mutual respect and kindness and the shared goals and stability that were all lacking in that first relationship, and an incredible sexual connection.

It’s relatively rare, but imo it’s worth holding out for. I didn’t think I’d experience it again after the first break up. But now I think of that experience as the one that kept me on track to meet the person I was meant to be with.

Best sex I ever had was with my first partner who was a long term relationship.

I didnlt know any different at the time but omly looking back did I realise how good I had it.

She had a high sex drive to match mine so sex pretty much every day, often more than once. She orgasmed through PIV alone and we more often and not finished at the same time or close. She was wet, enthusiastic and passionate. To me, I thought yeah, this is what I expected, it's what happens on TV so great - this is normal...

Until the partners that came after that were dry, seldom in the mood, couldn't orgasm via PIV, quiet, unenthusiastic etc etc....

I often look back wistfully at the amazing sex I used to have that has never been repeated since, including with DW.

My take on it is that at least I had it, rather than missing out for a lifetime.

@HerHusband - Maybe you’re not very good in bed, hence the dry and non-orgasmic women that you encounter.

@HerHusband
I think you need to educate yourself and up your game a bit
The majority of women can't orgasm from piv, sounds like you need to vastly improve your skills asap. The fact that you're complaining about woman being 'dry' says way more about you as a lover than them!!!

[quote Littlefluffyclouds13]@HerHusband
I think you need to educate yourself and up your game a bit
The majority of women can't orgasm from piv, sounds like you need to vastly improve your skills asap. The fact that you're complaining about woman being 'dry' says way more about you as a lover than them!!![/quote]
No issue giving an orgasm, but requires a lot of foreplay, manual stimulation and or oral and no issue with them getting wet, in time.

My comment was in the context of looking back at the best sex of your life. As I stated, my first partner was highly orgasmic from just PIV, readily wet, highly enthusiastic and horny, hence it was fabulous sex.

The sex I had since seems to replicate more typical sex I read about, which is fine. It's just nowhere near as good as my first partner - i.e the subject of the thread, getting over the best sex of your life.

The best sex is always with someone you have great sexual chemistry with. In my opinion, that can be hard to find.

Oh no, this is so sad. I too have lost the best sex of my life which I found after being in the absolute wilderness for 10 years. Now I'm back in that wilderness again and I don't think I'll ever find that connection with anyone again. Whoever it was that said "it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" was talking absolute rubbish. The pain and longing for what you had, it's overwhelming :(

No issue giving an orgasm, but requires a lot of foreplay, manual stimulation and or oral and no issue with them getting wet, in time.

I actually get a thrill from doing all this - so good sex for me (as a guy) includes all of the above! Horses for courses, I suppose.

But I have found the best sex has been with someone who I also had great chemistry with and, at the time, completely trusted so that I could fully "let go". After my divorce, I'm not sure I'll ever be able to be that intimate with someone again. I think I'll always be on my guard.

@TossaCoinToYerWitcher - Agree with the chemistry, when you’ve got it, you know it.
There’s no reason why you won’t find that again, if you do begin a sexual relationship again.