Ovaries causing huge libido

[Quailfortune]

Hi, I'm 50 and not menopausal ( have been scanned and tested) due to some weird symptoms (breast swelling for weeks at a time, bloating etc).
However I am having huge bursts of hyper-libido which are distressing me and causing me to drift into some risky behaviour.

I feel exhausted with this strange cycle, the last one lasted three weeks (of extreme horniness and giant boobs). It's so bad my brain can only think of sex during those times.

It is so abnormal it MUST be a weird hormonal thing.

My gynaecologist has offered me injections to shut my ovaries down and bring on menopause (I only told her about swelling, not extreme lust).

I'm torn.
Live with risky hyper sexual feelings for several weeks at a time, or menopause and feel like a rational human again.
What would you do?

Very glad I saw this so I can warn you! Absolutely 100% do not go on GnRHAs unless they are your only option. I was on them for two years in my 20s. If you think high libido is distressing, try no libido at all for most of a decade, to the point where being touched or even the thought of sex is repulsive and frightening. That’s on top of the damage to my bones, hair loss, weight gain, severe fatigue, chronic pain... I wish I could go back in time never have the stuff. If you Google Lupron (the one most commonly used in the US so there’s more info but I was on zoladex) you’ll find hundreds of stories like mine. There is fuck all research into the longterm effects, doctors aren’t interested. You really don’t want to take the risk.

As my hormones try to sort themselves out I have short phases of very high sex drive, usually mid cycle, then it goes again completely. I was also a complete mess while I was on it - massive rages, terrible anxiety, self harming. So you may find this doesn’t resolve any issues and adds to them anyway, and it’s only licensed for six months use.

In your position I would be trying to go to one of the private female hormone clinics to get bio identical hormones prescribed. I have been told my hormones are in normal range but my oestrogen is very low in range and I suspect this is part of the issue, but any progesterone means no sex drive while I’m taking it and then months without any when I stop it.

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I get two weeks every month where I feel like this too - I’m 38. It’s very distracting and my mood swings much more than during PMT! I get frustrated if we don’t have sex, and if we do but don’t have penetrative sex I still feel frustrated and “need” another go! It’s like my body is screaming at me to get pregnant before it’s too late!

Do u mean you are not in menopause yet but are in the peri menopausal phase? Extremely high libido at this age is associated with transitioning into the menopause phase. (See ‘ sex surge’ info’ ). There are some other really funny posts/threads on mumsnet that have discussed this issue. It’s definitely nuts but enjoyable given the right circumstances!