Not turn-offs

[Estherpologist]

If there are things that aren't a turn on for you, but aren't actually a turn off, and they're a turn on for your partner, do you do them?
I ask because I anticipate having to have that conversation from the side of not getting what turns me on.

Seeing him turned on is half the joy so most definitely yes

Yes, as long as I don't mind it and as long as it doesn't then dominate our sex life! So if he got turned on by me wearing a tutu, sure I could wear it for him... but it would soon become an annoying turn-off if he expected me to put on the tutu for every session!

Just an example - my partner is not turned on by tutus, to my knowledge.

I ask because I anticipate having to have that conversation from the side of not getting what turns me on.

I think though that it depends what the thing is - and probably how much the other person has to be active.

I can't think of much that I feel neutral about. Things either turn me on or off. If someone wanted something I felt neutral about, that would probably be because I hadn't tried it. In which case I'd be open to considering trying.

I don’t think there is enough context here to help the OP with this one.

@StarlightLady What context would be of use?

I'm a man. I had a partner who liked playing with my nipples, which gave me zero pleasure -making me a cup of tea would have been more erotic. I never asked her, but suppose she'd had a partner in the past who had liked it so she assumed it was a thing for all men. I'm not sure why but I didn't tell her, I'd distract her by playing with hers and she would soon forget what she had started.

@Danceswithwhippets I think sometimes we do to our partners what we want them to do to us. Maybe she was just trying to prompt you?
Or maybe that's just me.

@Danceswithwhippets - Tea? 😂

@Starlightlady Yes, me and Boy George (tea I mean, I don't think he ever said anything funny about his nipples)

I suppose it would depend what it was he was asking.