Last year I was diagnosed with cancer. Had surgery (hysterectomy) and pelvic radiotherapy. Going through surgical menopause, in my 30s.
I wasn't exactly gagging for it before all this happened, but it's fair to say my libido is now a big fat zero. The thing is, I just don't care that much; I don't want to have sex with my DH, but nor do I want to have sex with anyone else. My body has been through a lot, and I cannot stand the thought of anyone touching it. Also radiotherapy has unwelcome side effects on the vagina, can cause it to narrow and intercourse can become painful.
I don't know where our relationship can go from here, DH is very patient but I can't imagine that will last forever. Its not fair for him to go without sex if he wants it, but nor does it seem fair if I have to force myself to go through the motions when I don't really want to do it.
Has anyone been through similar? Did you come out the other side? I'm still trying to generally deal with the fact I've gone through all this cancer crap at a relatively young age, this feels like another stress that is playing on my mind.