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Where the heck to have it??!

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Latenighthoughts · 30/03/2021 21:35

Just that really. Co sleep with a newborn so the bedroom is out of the question. When we have a rare moment when we're not attached to the hip with dc the house is always occupied (live with in laws). Theres no where to go! Car wouldnt work dp is too big and not comfortable to dtd anywhere but in the comfort of his own home. Im stumped. Dp does try to start things in bed but I always have to turn him down since I sleep right next to my baby it just feels wrong and I cant get in the mood. Hotels aren't open right now and even if they were we would still have to bring dc since we dont feel it's fair to leave them overnight being on months old. Any suggestions kindly welcome!

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dementedpixie · 30/03/2021 21:43

Is there not a crib or moses basket or similar to pop the baby in rather than the bed when you want to intimate? A bouncy chair? The bedroom floor on a mat?

Parkerwhereareyou · 31/03/2021 06:05

Get some kind of crib and put the baby in it so you can have sex while the baby is asleep.

Or get the in-laws to take the baby for a walk and ...

Parkerwhereareyou · 31/03/2021 06:08

Also not being funny but the sleeping baby doesn't know anything. And is here as a result of you having sex. On your side, DH behind you, baby asleep on the other side of you. Perfectly natural. I appreciate not for everyone but I don't think wrong as baby blissfully unaware. It is a rather specific form of quickie, though!

StarlightLady · 31/03/2021 08:00

Spring has sprung! Head for the woods! As you live with your inlaws, could they not look after the little one for a while? You could then follow the example in an old Billy Jo Spears’ song and take the blanket from the bedroom.

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Latenighthoughts · 31/03/2021 10:15

Baby has a co sleeping bed but it is level with us so it's like they are in bed with us. Not really ideal. I know the baby is unaware but I am and I really cant get in the mood when dc is there infront of me!

@StarlightLady dp would never have sex outside of the house. Puts a giant limitation on things.

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dementedpixie · 31/03/2021 10:19

Can you use the floor then. Drag covers and pillows off the bed

withmycoffee · 31/03/2021 12:12

Good for you wanting sex after 1 month! I was told not for 6 weeks and then I wasn't fussed for another 6 months whether I had it or not!!!

Parkerwhereareyou · 31/03/2021 12:49

What about baby in crib, DP on other side of bed and you do it there so at least with a big gap between you??

I think your bedroom sounds the best place. So you either do it with sleeping baby there snd just get a firm grip of your mind and try to forget the baby for while.

Or the baby isn't there - someone takes him:her for you.

Or put sleeping baby in another room for a bit?

PinotPony · 31/03/2021 13:29

Shower?

blowinahoolie · 31/03/2021 14:11

Bathroom quickie. Turn on the water so you can be as loud as necessary. You are both entitled to enjoy yourself!

Isadora2007 · 01/04/2021 22:25

When cosleeping we kind of hid from the baby behind pillows. Tbh it wasn’t the best sex life ever but it kept our intimacy levels there and it was fine- plus or minus the leaky boobs and stirring baby.

m0therofdragons · 01/04/2021 22:53

Where does baby nap? Put baby in pram outside the room.

TripleSeptic · 04/04/2021 21:37

I read a funny meme on an attachment parenting page, but I can't find it now. It was a picture of a settee, with the message "never sit on a co-sleeper's sofa". That was our romance spot for 3 long years. Top tip, get out of the room as soon as possible once the child is sleeping, the first 10 minutes are the deepest sleep, lie with them for 45 mins, and they'll be awake again, it does not keep them asleep longer. Stair gate at the top of the stairs will be handy eventually too, any obstacles you can delay them with until you can get your PJ's back on as they get older will be useful too 😂👍 cup of water, favourite teddy, the remote control, whatever will slow them down 😂

TripleSeptic · 04/04/2021 21:42

With a newborn it was the bedroom floor on top of the duvet, the landing, or when we realised we were too old for hard floors, a pillow wall, so we could hear, but not see. They have an biological cock-blocking mechanism to PREVENT you having sex, so that they remain the focus of your attention and don't have to share you with another baby too soon.

TripleSeptic · 04/04/2021 21:45

Omg, sorry, just realised you live with in-laws. Get them to take baby out for fresh air and a walk for an hour so you can "catch up on your sleep". Don't christen their sofa while they're out washing the car 😂

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