My sex drive is higher than my DP’s. We have sex about 3x a week, which is ok, I can put up with that. The issue is it only happens when he wants it and only eve in the mornings. since my sex drive is higher -I am happy to oblige- but increasingly less so.
I rarely initiate anymore as I am nearly always turned down. This is leading to real frustration for me and feeling somewhat used. I get that no one should ever have sex If they don’t feel like it but I don’t know how to get over the fact that it is so one sided.
This morning he wanted sex but I have been feeling so disheartened that I told him no.
We have talked about it. He sees it as a problem with our mismatched drives but I don’t think it is just that.
He gets it when he wants it and I don’t.
It’s so disheartening not to be able to express myself sexually because I feel like he will feel pressured to perform and then conversely try and turn myself on just because he is in the mood.
He is a lovely caring man.
Please do tell me if I am being selfish.
Others in my position how does this play out in your relationships?