Reflection on disappointment

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I met a man, we had sex. It was amazing, it was so unexpected.
We had sex again and I have never been so disappointed!!
The first time he was really into me and making sure I was pleasured. The second it was all about him and rather dull and I'm not sure how to handle the situation.
I know he is going to message to see me again and I don't really want to talk about it with him. I think the first time was a one off and the second was the view of what's to come.
I don't think I should have to ask a man to take notice of me during sex.
What do you think, am I being harsh?

I wouldn't want him. Bad sign. Red flag, even!

I'd bin him. Not harsh at all.

If you don’t way to talk to him, the only way is out.

I met my wife and on our second date we had the best sex either of us had experienced. We were both aged 57.
We talked, we still talk. We talk about what we want. That is what WE want not what just one of us wants.
Sex is for mutual pleasure and should not be one sided.

I met a guy exactly like this, we were only going to be FB/FWB.
The first time was amazing and it was all about my pleasure, the second time was awful and all about his pleasure.
I decided not to see him again and dropped contact, months passed and he messaged out of the blue as a new relationship had broken down and against my better judgement I met him and it was awful again.
He messaged a few weeks later to meet up and I said I was busy, he tried a few more times and in the end I told him the sex wasn't great and I didn't want to see him again.

Normally I wouldn't say anything but then I thought how disappointed other women will be in the future and maybe if he knew his sexual technique was crap he could improve.

Wishful thinking probably🤣

Thanks for commenting everyone. We all seem to unanimously agree that it should be 'we' focussed!!
He has messaged and I have agreed to see him again which will be the deal breaker.
He's been very focal in likes and has asked a lot about my interests which is positive. I am hoping it wasn't a one hit wonder but we'll see.
@SortingItOut what was the response when you said that?
Sometimes I think about suggesting to men areas for improvement just to make it better for the next woman but never had the bottle!!
I also think if men aren't willing to ask or respond to our needs and wants it very unlikely they will try anyway....