What makes a woman good in bed?

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Been here for years and not looking for sleazy stories, just interested to know what takes it to the wow level for a man - not specifics as that’s personal I think.

But for example I’m not in the best shape but I always make sure I feel and smell good, I’m enthusiastic and I think quite sensual. I know what goes where and am reasonably open minded.

I’m hoping to date again when all this is over and I’d like to know how I can make it a good experience if things go in a bedroom direction.

Well, for a start body size and shape has very little to do with whether a woman is 'good in bed' as far as I am concerned.

For me the most vital thing is enthusiasm. It trumps experience, and when coupled with a willingness to try something different it makes an unbeatable combination.

I would like to think that cleanliness is a given. A pair of smelly feet would be a real turn-off, for example. Flexibility and the capability of getting into more unusual sexual positions can be a lot of fun. A sense of humour would be absolutely essential for me, both in and out of the bedroom.

I think that being good in bed covers a vast area and there are no hard and fast rules about what you need to do to be awarded that accolade. It may be that one man would say that a woman who does not indulge in anal intercourse is not for him, while another would have a different set of criteria. It boils down to personal likes and dislikes, but that element of enthusiasm is for me absolutely essential.

Enthusiasm and showing you're enjoying it.

Us men are simple creatures really ;)

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Enthusiasm and showing you're enjoying it.

Us men are simple creatures really ;)

This. Men enjoy it more when we know our lady is enjoying it.

What @xpc316e says. Enthusiasm, sense of humour, being on the same wavelength. Get those and the sex can be unbelievable even if your partner isn't "drop dead gorgeous".

I'll second all the above.....we are simple and we do enjoy the thought that our partner is also getting off too...so I'd say communication really is no one. He needs to reciprocate and be willing to open up too...a failing of mine for example. If its a new partner tell him what you like and what you dont! If you like your nipples squeezed hard then he needs to know....I only found out after a couple of years of being oh so gentle with them! Ask him what he likes....be direct....if Anglo Saxon words are ok for both of you then fine....if not best not. And there is absolutely nothing more likely to drive him wild that flirtation and innuendo before the actual event, be that saucy texts, or suggestive conversation or what ever else your imagine comes up with....being good in bed is a whole lot more than just sex itself....a snuggle up after works wonders!

As @xpc316e says.

Size / shape doesn’t really matter, it’s enthusiasm / communication / shows enjoyment that matters, the simple stuff really

Based on a lot of the threads about relationships round here, merely being game to participate on a regular basis will put you ahead of the pack.

Confidence, enthusiasm and a sense of fun would be the main factors in a great time together.
As a combination these factors make "sexy."

Definitely enthusiasm! Also, what makes a woman good in bed is when she has a partner who makes her feel good.

Being comfortable with each other helps. My husband said that he likes that there is no awkwardness - you can get a sudden leg cramp for example, and laugh about it rather than feel embarrassed.

Agree with others about enthusiasm. I think in addition being open minded and initiating different things on occasions. I also told him once that I needed him inside me and that really excited him...I think the knowing I needed him did it for him!

I think someone can have years of experience but if there's no chemistry then the sex will be at best, mediocre. It's when two people just have that special spark between them, then it can be amazing.

I think openness and honesty are key so that you are both 'good in bed' with each other. For me, shifting away from what I thought he wanted was a watershed.
I used to think men needed to take the lead based on previous experience but now I base it on what I want and it's so much better. It's taken some time but we've both learned to ask for what we want (and be content with the other person saying no).

Enthusiasm
Taking the lead and saying what you want
Enjoying a mixture of quick, passionate encounters as well as long, sensual sessions.

Thats all I need to be happy in the bedroom!

Ask for what you want instead of expecting him to read your mind. In my experience men love having that pressure taken off them to 'guess' what you want/like :)

It’s good to hear en saying body shape/size isn’t as important - I’m out of a long term marriage where I was constantly put down for my size and am now enjoying a very flirty online relationship with a guy and it’s getting more suggestive as the days go by.
I’ve sent pics (clothed!) and he complements me and wants to meet up post lockdown to get to know each other, but my body size is giving me anxiety even though I’m learning to love myself more!
For clarity, he isn’t crossing any boundaries with the sexy chat and I’m not looking to rush into anything, but I do miss good sex and am hoping this will lead somewhere in time!

I think how you click makes a huge difference. You need chemistry and confidence between you both.