How normal is this?

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For a man (for example my dh) to think about sex and fancy a handful of the women he works with?
He says it’s standard man behaviour and just fantasies (although he has had an emotional affair there with one who has now left).
Am I being naive to believe he’s not seeking something else out that he’s clearly missing with me. Or, is this normal?
I don’t fantasise about men I know even though I appreciate if they’re good looking humans.
Help...

Of course its normal to be attracted to other people, and to fantasise now and again. But why on earth is he telling you? Is he trying to put you down and hurt your feelings? Or have you told him you want to know about every woman he finds attractive? My DP would never tell me if he had a crush on anyone in RL, he has told me the odd celebrity he thinks is attractive but he would never do it in a way to make me feel insecure or put down.

I find any number of women attractive, and in different circumstances I might follow up on things, but I don't. I am in a stable relationship that suits me down to the ground, but it would be a weird world for me if I found nobody other than my partner attractive.

How did you find out that he finds some of his colleagues attractive? Did you quiz him? If he told you without being prompted, then that may well have an element of undermining you, but if you asked him and he answered honestly then that seems like jealousy may influence your thoughts.

I’m not questioning that it’s fine to spore people are attractive.
It’s the development of sexual feelings that follow

Spore = fine

See someone as physical attractive yes of course, that’s normal for everyone.

Not sure about the sexual feelings bit, are you sure it’s not just a bit a male bravado ?

What do you mean by sexual feelings. What has he said? Something like '' Susan is very pretty'' or '' I'd love to fuck Susan and think about it while I wank.''