BF really quiet during sex

[RosesandPumpkins]

He’s so quiet that I don’t know he’s come when he’s come.
He says he enjoys our sex life. And he clearly does and everything in our life is great. I would just like a bit of verbal feedback. Some moans or grunts or something.
I’ve never been with a man who is so quiet during sex. I don’t know why it bothers me so much.
I’m fairly vocal during sex.
Any ideas on how I can move beyond this? We talk about it and he knows how I feel but he is just quiet. He doesn’t see anything wrong.

Has he always been the same? Does he feel that he HAS to be quiet? (Neighbours/kids/used to living at home etc) Have you told him/asked himself to let himself go?

As long as you are both having a good time, why would it be an issue.

Sex shouldn't be a performance. A lot of women are used to performing 'noise' during sex, but I've never met a noisy man during sex and I've had multiple dozens of partners. Almost all very quiet.

I'm not sure where your noisy exes come from!

Yes he’s always been quiet and yes I’ve told him to let go. We occasionally have pushed boundaries of him talking dirty but this is very rare. He knows I’d like him to talk dirty etc but it’s just his thing (which is totally fine).
I guess I just feel sometimes after sex like I’m not sure if he’s enjoyed himself.
I’ve never had noisy exes and I don’t need screaming but just quiet breathy moans would indicate that if I’m doing a particular thing feels good or not

While this is not the case for you

This is how sex feels for some men in unhappy relationships, you haven’t done it for a while, you know you should, neither of you enjoyed it, neither of you say anything and you don’t bother again

Well yeah that’s my worry! A lack of enthusiastic enjoyment might indicate dutiful participation. It’s not in my case... but how would I know the difference

Whilst vocal cues are awesome, there are only kinds of feedback tho aren’t there? In my experience, the response you get from someone’s body is a lot more effective at telling you what’s going on in their mind than their words could ever. Facial expression, muscle tension, shifting of positions, other things... could be fun to experiment and watch/feel for the responses :)

As a man, this is interesting thread.
@kinkybutkind has it right.
Most of my partners have been very quiet, and I would like to have known if what I was doing was going somewhere for her- often when you're busy it's difficult to pick up on the subtle signs!
Particularly for giving oral, when with one partner I stopped after getting zero feedback after what seemed to me quite a long time and she was very grumpy and demanded "why did you stop?"

I’m queen of giving feedback 🤣. But you’re right there are lots of non verbal clues. There’s plenty of intimacy and non verbal communication. Eye contact, hand holding, kissing etc.
I will try and be quieter myself and pay attention to the signals more!