Female ejaculation- taken by surprise after 16 years!

[BlueberryJam89]

Imagine our surprise when, after 16 years of being together (9 married) and 2 kids under 5, it suddenly feels like I'm wetting the bed during sex!

I thought at first it was just a lovely bladder control takeaway from having kids but then realised it's the elusive female ejaculation.... and omg the orgasms are something else!

We've always had a very healthy sex life but I have no idea how I've never had them before after 16 years of sex.

Is it related to having children? Or just a freak accident that we've discovered and now keep doing?

Are there any other women who ejaculate? I've had to buy more towels to lie on as it literally soaks the bed!

I'm 59 and discovered it can happen to me last year. It's great, although I don't find the orgasms as intense as clitoral ones.

We grab a towel if we're going to play this way (we're into BDS and use restraints and toys). Enjoy it, new sensations are great!

I found my ability to squirt a couple of years ago, it's amazing isn't it. I like it more when it takes me by surprise (sometimes I want it more than a normal orgasm and almost try to force it-bad move). However have ended up having to change bedding a few times 🙃

The power of the female body 😁

are you able to say if technique or position has brought about this change ?

Heading to 40 and have started doing this in the last year! For me it started with the womaniser toy and now it happens with any type of sex, especially if I have multiple orgasms

For me it started when I was late 30s. I don't know if it was just being more confident and "freer" in my body? But a lot of clit stimulation helps me.

It's only ever happened to me a couple of times, took me completely by surprise (!) and I haven't been able to replicate it. Would love some tips!

I think maybe feeling more free and comfortable might be a huge part of it, yes! Otherwise I'm not really sure- it's almost always happened during foreplay rather than sex and normally through two types of stimulation at the same time. No toys involved though!

(He's obviously chuffed to bits, once he'd got over the initial reaction that I'd just peed all over the bed the first few times!!)

It feels hugely liberating as you just assume sex with the same person for the rest of your life won't hold many more surprises

I wonder how many women have them? It's not the sort of thing I feel like I could say to my girl mates!!

I’m 31 and have just started doing it in the last year. It just happened one day.
A lot of clit Stimulation does it for me, it’s awesome

I’d love to learn how to do this

I even considered buying the special glass wand from an online retailer that says it makes you ejaculate but it’s loads of money and comes from Australia

@Onedropbeat

I’d love to learn how to do this

I even considered buying the special glass wand from an online retailer that says it makes you ejaculate but it’s loads of money and comes from Australia

Do you have a partner? I've always struggled to get anywhere with toys tbh. That's me personally though and I have a lot of friends who love them!

The method we probably use the most now is quite vigorous fingers combined with rapid clit stimulation, at the same time. It creates an enormous build up of pressure and then the release! It was harder than my husband would do it until I encouraged him to go faster then it happened. I don't think I'd be able to get there if we were doing any slow or sensual...

"The method we probably use the most now is quite vigorous fingers combined with rapid clit stimulation,"

I don't think I've "squirted" before but doing this I can see gets you there and left me extremely wet that I did wonder if I had. My DH and I tried some things different where he tied me to the bed and put a mask on so I couldn't see. Did some wonderful slow touching and build up but then started playing with me to such an extent that I was very wet and relaxed to the point he could slide two fingers in me which he can't normally. Didn't touch my clit though. He started sliding them in and out really quickly and deeply and god it made me wriggle and moan but OMG when I came it was explosive and a really incredible wet feeling happened. There wasn't some squirt but I wonder if there was a fluid release. I know I lay there for several minutes and was shaking. He said my vulva was quivering for a few minutes afterwards as well

I learned how to squirt last year after someone recommended the Njoy at a squirting workshop. Totally worth the investment.

Having talked to lots of women about their experience, a common theme seems to be lots of g spot stimulation.

I agree that a huge part of it is just being able to relax and let go, so you get that incredible sense of release.

I am 34 now and it started happening when I hit about 30 - I definitely think it was to do with letting go, feeling comfortable and more in tune with my body - I love doing it now. I need a lot of clitoral stimulation and find being on top the best for this.

I hope it really is to do with the pure letting go and not just that older and post birth women can do it because of a weaker pelvic floor and that it is actually wee

That would be my dreams crushed

I know that this is going to be controversial but I lived with a lovely lady for 5years and we had the most fabulous sex over this time. She squirted very very regularly, almost always from fingering and clit stimulation - at the beginning it was marvellous but over time it became a real ballache as we were always concerned about towels, sheets, duvets etc. This would happen even whilst having a quick fumble ‘to get to sleep’, let alone a full on session.

@Onedropbeat

I hope it really is to do with the pure letting go and not just that older and post birth women can do it because of a weaker pelvic floor and that it is actually wee

That would be my dreams crushed

From the NHS website...

"Some people may ejaculate when having a vaginal orgasm. A clear fluid spurts from glands close to the urethra during intense sexual excitement or during orgasm. The glands are called the Skene's glands."

www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/sexual-health/what-is-an-orgasm/

So what happens when a woman can't squirt? Does that mean her skenes glands aren't working? Or the fluid they produce just doesn't come out?? Hmm

It was new to me at 44 as well, with a new partner and different depth and angle of PIV. Its different and very intense. i dont like it as much as clitoral orgasm, and its messy, I definitely wouldnt force one!!

@IndigoJewel

So what happens when a woman can't squirt? Does that mean her skenes glands aren't working? Or the fluid they produce just doesn't come out?? Hmm

I'm no expert, but I doubt the Skene's glands are intended to 'squirt' in the same way the prostate is, but like any other area down below, I would guess the level of wetness and therefore the availability of fluids to be 'ejaculated', increases with arousal and / or extended 'activity'? Probably down to the individual and the right conditions?