Thank you

[fendilover]

I've changed my regular name more times that an I can remember but I wanted to come in here to thank you all pps for you great tips
And advice re my new relationship after nearly twenty years. I wrote about body confidence , sexual inertia, dead from the waist down , new experiences , new try outs and last night , following a wonderfully romantic night , I am
So Happy to say that I had an eight hour ' love in' with my boyfriend of seven months at 48 years of age who woke later this morning to say that he had had the greatest sexual experiences of his life and was so loved up and horny again and who has literally just text to say he can't sleep reliving those moments. I feel
Entirely the same . My point here Is that every single thing We enjoyed and communicated about was so down to the advice and posts I read about on here and opened up, let myself go, and tried... so massive thanks to you all .... especially the regulars... you know exactly who you are x after years of sexual coercion , therapy , financial and emotional neglect , I feel so
Liberated and appreciative . Thank
You

Fan-bloody-tastic!

What a lovely post @fendilover! And a lovely experience for you and your man - just wonderful 😊
I think you are absolutely spot on about this page and the regulars on it. It’s like a public service via a board and it feels like a very supportive community within MN.
I agree that the regulars on here are so helpful and generous with their advice. Their honesty regarding their own experiences is great to read at times when people are having difficulties and sex isn’t always something you can talk openly about with friends etc.
Big collective thank you to those regulars
@xpc316e
@Starlightlady
@MisterT373
@GentlemanJay
@PinotPony
@Arnoldthecat
@noego
@peridito
@JustAnotherOldMan
@AverageGuy
@Anotherblokelurking
I am sure there are many more too.
It’s funny how I often think some of you have a “specialist subject” too. I will see a post and think, we need X to come along and comment here!
@Starlightlady - if it’s oral sex I think of you.
@PinotPony - if it’s something quite adventurous, I think of you.
@xpc316e - if the person needs reassurance and kindness or a different perspective on the situation, I think of you.
Perhaps not specialist subjects that you can go onto Mastermind with, but your knowledge & wisdom is appreciated here 😁

That's great. Xx.

That's made me grin ear to ear! Fantastic! 😀

You have no idea how much your advice/ tips/ reassurance/ education basically(!) has enabled me to move on and embrace and revisit my previously dead sexuality .
Here I learned that the number one point of enjoyment for me, was letting myself go into that moment .
I learned that while there is a perceived idea that all people should be into all things sexual, that it's ok not to subscribe to the 'norm ' as long as the experiences are mutually enjoyable and equal and respectful.
I learned that my imperfect yet healthy body is perfectly enough.
I learned that I don't owe anybody their idea of a fantasy woman .
I learned that confidence and eagerness, for me , is the key to incredible intimacy.
Finally I learned that constant communication and honest expression have led me to where I now am
Sexually.
I have never enjoyed intimacy more and as I said last night, neither has he; despite him being the one who has introduced me to all manner of new experiences and positions .
I am elated and so appreciative!!!!

@fendilover - ‘Pleased for you. Now keep the rock and roll a-rockin’ and from another comment in this thread, his tongue a-waggin’. 🌷

@fendilover, that’s great news, 👍🏼

fendilover, thanks for saying nice things about me and the other regulars here.

I would suggest that your experiences more than qualify you to become a 'regular' and to help others do what you have done. I think that many would gain great encouragement from your input.

What a joyous post. I think I have something in my eye

Thanks for your lovely comments .
I'm certainly no expert but if I felt I could contribute and help to allay so many fears and ' blocks' to fulfil satisfaction, I would only be glad to do so.

I didn’t realise l was going to get responsibility for my own portfolio. As a young girl, I was quite shy and mum used to say to me “you have a tongue in your head, use it!” Advice l have past on to others since!

Typo: past on = passed on. Oh the shame!

Wow there's hope for me yet at 47!

Their certainly is ! If you had told me one year ago that I would be in this situation right now, I would have laughed out loud ( or cried into my wine as the case may be !!) I remember saying to my friends that I felt dead from the waist down such was my relief I suppose, that I was safe in my own space and had not to succumb to a sexually coercive dead marriage anymore. They found it difficult to comprehend but were sensitive . They suggested I sign up to on line dating even without a profile photo as I am very private and didn't consider getiiing' out there' ; even just to chat and build confidence again . I did and the rest as they say( after a few non runners !) is history .

There

Fab!

I'm really pleased for you. From my experience it takes lots of bad experiences before the good ones come along.

Thank you. In my experience it has also been a case of sorting the wheat from the chaff

@lollipoprainbow, 47 is no age, I’m 50 something, whilst my breakdancing days are behind me, I’d like to think I still have a few more years left in me yet !

I feel a tear in my eye...

Thank you for such a wonderful post

What a great post! Happy to share my experiences and advise where I can - its the least anyone should do!