Sex With A Much Older Man

[Wintertime1973]

Hello,

Just some advice really..... I am 47 years old and going into a relationship with a 77 year old. Can anyone tell me if sex is very different with a much older man?

25 yr difference once
I was 34 he was 59
All nice and yeah nice

I am 61 and FWB is 75. Recovery time is much longer than with a younger man but he has the most intense physical reaction to orgasm of anyone I’ve ever known (and I have been around a bit). No viagra involved to my knowledge.

In terms of actual age gap, when I was younger a big age gap normally meant I was being taken advantage of ... but I think once they get past about 65 the balance of power is reversed.

I’m 51 and imagine the issues you might find are going to be
Ability get a good enough erection for sex
Ability to keep an erection during sex
Ability to cum
Recovery time could be a day or more

But Kudos to the 77 yr old guy, I’ve not had sex for a few years for a few different reasons but I’m pretty sure won’t be up to it at 77 !

I am one of those older men.
The refractory period (=recovery time) for women is generally much shorter for women then men, and in my experience gets shorter with women’s age (lucky women!)
So if you lucky enough to have a 20 year old man at your disposal, great, and you might expect a recovery time of less than half an hour (alcohol excepted).
For us older men, maybe an hour or so and perhaps not until the next morning. But I’d like to think we would be experienced and skilful so as to help you achieve yours, as many as you liked, by other means.

Reading with interest as having a courtship with a lovely man who is about to turn 64. I'm 45 and fancy the pants off him but fecking covid is hindering getting physical.

My partner is 64. He doesn’t have a problem getting/sustaining an erection & doesn’t use Viagra.
He has a high sex drive which suits me. I’m aware that all this might change as the years pass but at the moment we have no issues.

I think the fact that he’s quite active and healthy helps a lot.

I had an older boyfriend. I was 34 and he was 50. It was amazing and sex was great! I just got bored as he never wanted to go out on the town now and then. I love to have a good party.
Hope it works for you x

DH is 68. No problems with libido and certainly no need for Viagra.

Mechanics work the same as younger men, if they work.
30years difference and a 77yo - I’d just thread lightly, and let him lead the way. Because no matter how healthy he is keeping - you don’t really know what condition his health is really in. And I’d worry about doing something to cause issues.

But - I say - good for him. Not sure it’s an equal deal and you both are getting as much out of all of it - but each to their own.

My older man (58) had to use viagra. Which wasn’t a problem for me, like. The sex was pretty poor, but that was because he quickly became a very selfish lover - nothing to do with his age. Older men are likely to be more experienced, which is a big plus in my book. Enjoy!

I think ‘older men’ experiences of men in their 50s isn’t quite the same as OP’s situation.
I think if I had a father of 77 and a woman of 47 decided to ‘enter in a relationship’ with him, I’d be worried.

Why should sex be any different? It's always still sex.

What do you think? The big difference is that he's been alive 30 years longer than you. So physically his body has aged more. So that's a difference, to be intimate with an older body.

And we don't know whether he was married for 50 plus years and in a sexless marriage, or if he's been around snd about ... his life and self will determine his level of sexual experience and expertise.

He is a person. Who's lived longer than you.

Ok I'll state the obvious. You might feel weird having sex with someone so much older. Because it feels inappropriate.

Personally it is not my cup of tea.