Finding a sexually compatible man (penis size)

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Hi so obviously had to NC for this as would be mortified if people I know irl saw this.

Basically I really get off on very well endowed men. My ex of 5 years and DSs dad was extremely big and sex with him was by far the best of my life. Things didn't work out for a number of other reasons that aren't worth getting into.

Since then I was with the loveliest man for 2 years. We were best friends, shared so much in common, etc. But the sex was always just ok. I would orgasm occasionally but it was never the raw pleasure of my ex. I do think this was partly due to him being on the small side of average. Eventually I decided sex was too important to give up and we ended things on good terms.

I've had a few other flings but what I want is a long term loving relationship. Covid has made me realise how lonely I am and how much I long for a lovely partner to share my life with 😣

Sometimes I think maybe the issue isn't penis related but tbh I am a very sexual person. I am very visual and seeing a man strip and show a very large penis really gets me going. I also just love that feeling of being full I get from a bigger one. Maybe I am big down there myself.

At the same time I obviously don't want a man's penis to be the basis of our relationship. I want to date, get to know someone, fall in love, etc. I just want great sex too and for me that means a big penis.

So I guess my question is how do you balance sexual compatibility with relationship compatibility? Sometimes I think I'm just being too picky but like I said. Sex is really important to me and for whatever reason I am quite picky.

Please don't be too harsh. I just have a sexual preference. I'm not trying to put down any man that doesn't match my preference.

Thanks for listening.

I would say that you are just going to have to have sex with different men until you find one big enough, and then hope he is good relationship material? Could take you a while to find someone who has both qualities though...

It's always just come naturally without thinking too much about it. The ones I haven't had great sex with are the ones who I haven't clicked with personality wise either. I think the two are connected. It's not all down to size, although I agree a small one isn't great. Most men are average. I'm lucky that my DH is big, but if he was smaller we would make it work as we have a sexual connection.

I suppose you go on fab swingers and only click on blokes with massive cocks and hope they arn’t one! Otherwise you cant tell until you’ve seen them naked.

But as pp said a lot is down to chemistry. I’v had crap sex with some beautiful women. Its wasn't that they were crap in bed or that it was like waving a flag in space - we just didnt click sexually.

From what I read on MN is difficult enough to find a decent guy so to find one who is, with a bigger than average cock and likes you back? You might be single a while!!

A friend of mine is on fabswingers and all the men seem like massive dicks...but not in a good way 😂 If you want a long term relationship I wouldn’t recommend going on there to find the perfect package! As PP’s have said I suppose it’s just dating until you find a suitable fit (so to speak!) Good luck!

Having experienced a variety, I'm more of the opinion that there is a minimum, but there is also a maximum and it's combined with how it's used and what else they do. While I wouldn't want to be without penetration, there's also other important stuff that I wouldn't want to miss out on. IME the ones on the large side rely on what nature gave them too much and are poor in other areas. A good all-rounder is hard to find, my current fella is pretty good, but even he could be better with his hands, whereas prior fella, was great with his hands, but fairly crap at everything else ( which was much worse on balance).

I think that when you have met someone you really, really like, it won’t matter how big he is. It’s amazing how chemistry (and biology!) works when it comes to attraction.

Your lovely ex was not “the one” for you. Don’t write off many decent men because they lack an inch or two, in your opinion.

My DH is average size. I swear that I don’t think any man could be better in bed than him. After 15 years he’s still all I want. I was watching him tonight take his muddy boots off after a day’s work and I just wanted to take everything else off him. That’s chemistry; it’s not the size of his dick.

Osirus that is such a lovely post and so very true 😊

Internet dating might help. I’ve heard men love sending pictures of their willies.

Go on naked attraction

YY to online dating, men will flood you with pics of their dicks, requested or not.

If you find a man you like he could indulge your greedy side by wearing an extension. They are available from LoveHoney. Broaching the subject may be awkward though. Some men would take offence.