I don't want it

[alrightbutallwrong]

Sorry if this ends up long but I'm hoping there's some advice out there.
DH and I have been together 20 years, one teenager and a 10 month old. Prior to baby arriving, we slept in separate rooms - because he snores (not gentle snoring, like earth shaking snoring that I can even here in the other bedroom or downstairs with the tv on so you can imagine what it's like to sleep next to - well, not sleep next to because there's no sleep). He refuses to do anything about it (I guess it's not a problem when you're not the one being kept awake). When baby arrived, it was pretty traumatic - emergency CS and baby in NICU over a week then a fairly tough recovery (own fault for overdoing it). The baby still sleeps in the main bedroom and we take it in turns to sleep there while the other sleeps in the spare room (which is about to be babies room).

I'm dreading going back to sharing a bed for several reasons, mainly:

1. The snoring means most nights I'll end up on the couch
2. Knowing I'm going to start getting pawed at at night again.

I know that sounds awful but I just don't have any interest in it at the moment. The odd occasion it has happened lately has been uncomfortable and when you've spent all day being touched and pawed at by a baby (I'm not complaining at all) the last thing you want when you fall into bed is to be touched again. By the end of the day, I just want space!

The little one is a very light sleeper and wakes easily. DH has just come in tonight (I'm in main room with baby), woke me up and tried it on. I'm working full time, have a baby at home (because of the virus restrictions) trying to ensure the teen does what he's supposed to, cooking, cleaning etc and I'm knackered so the last thing I needed was to be woken when I'd not long fallen asleep, I told him it's my bad week (not a total lie, I am due on) and he went away in the huff muttering typical but now I'm wide awake feeling like crap and the little one is half awake after being disturbed with the door and movement etc.

I don't know what to do? I don't like pushing him away, I'd never want to intentionally hurt him but I just have zero interest in sex at the moment.

Have a chat and explain how you feel. Maybe if he pawed a bit less and gave you a cuddle and kiss you would begin to feel like you wanted him again.
If the snoring is really bad I’d go to bed for a cuddle then sleep in the bed you’ve been sleeping in.

I actually don't think it's o

Oops! Sneezed lol. Its not on that he won't seek treatment for his snoring, he's a fool not to, as it will affect him too. Sleep apnoea, often associated with snoring can lead to heart disease and daytime weariness/ narcolepsy. For me, that alone would be a deal-breaker, I'm a light sleeper and can't abide snoring.