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Do came at me with a floppy knob.

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AttackOfTheFloppyKnob · 12/01/2021 21:56

And it's happened twice.

Obviously I've name changed for this as I've been on this since God were a boy and all this were fields > but this is a weird one.

We've always had a good sex life, usual droughts on occasion but in general we get it on a few times a week. Last week we started having sex, his knob was soft. I had to scoop it in. Blush not soft, soft. There was slight rigidity but not the stonking great erection he usually has. But the weirdest thing was he didn't seem aware, just banged away as normal. And he did finish off (( sorry all, ' cum' makes me cringe ))I put it down to the cold and poor circulation. We've had normal shags in between then again this morning. Floppy knob. And he seemed completely oblivious. This time he didn't finish but managed later with a normal erection.

I can't bring myself to say anything, and believe me I have in the past when he's tried to go for a quick nipple flick then climb aboard. He's been given short shrift, he always sorts me out first so plenty of foreplay but in 25 years of having sex with the man I've never experienced this before. What the hell is it ? Could he be genuinely unaware he's flopping about ? And could it be a health problem such as poor circulation ?

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SynchroSwimmer · 12/01/2021 23:30

Love your opening para OP, “When all this were fields” Made me laugh - a lot.

If it is more than a temp issue I would monitor discreetly - and then definitely get him to seek medical advice. There was a Guardian article but I can’t find a link. In older men it can sometimes be the first sign of other circulatory issues that need addressing. (alas I regret no having knowledge of this in the past)

Equally it could just be a temporary thing though - and as you say, lots of chaps grumble about the cold weather having an impact. One chap I know admits that he positively “hibernates” his during winter!

drapeyday · 13/01/2021 06:02

I wouldn't worry most guys get this is very normal.

peridito · 13/01/2021 08:16

High blood pressure ,which is notorious for having very few symptoms ,can cause E D .

I think he needs to get this checked .Though in my locality ( London ) the GP's are currently unable to offer blood pressure checks and will send you off to buy a monitor and check your own .You'll need to find out the protocol on monitoring - I think it's something like 3 or 2 times a day .

I wouldn't ignore it .

Can't help on why he doesn't seem aware ,seems odd ...?

peridito · 13/01/2021 08:33

Sorry - don't want to imply that in every incidence of floppiness men should think high blood pressure .Obviously it happens from time to time .

Was taking into account the conditions described by the OP ,length of marriage ,absence of first night nerves etc .

MisterT373 · 13/01/2021 13:59

Drop in testosterone will do that. Mens testosterone levels are highest in the morning. Plus once the seed of doubt is planted as to "why aren't I hard" its a spiral downwards mentally for the bloke.

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AttackOfTheFloppyKnob · 13/01/2021 15:29

I'm more concerned about a health issue. He isn't ancient, we've been together since we were kids. (( He's 43 )) I think I'll mention it if it happens again.

He isn't shy about saying he can't manage an erection either, I get he isn't a performing monkey and just like I don't always feel in the mood he doesn't either. It's the not seeming to be aware I found very odd.

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Moonmelodies · 14/01/2021 09:10

You'd think higher blood pressure would make it bigger and harder, no?

peridito · 14/01/2021 09:43

Yes ,I get where you're coming from moon .

I think it's something to do with having narrowed arteries which limit and increase the pressure of blood to the heart ,but in the penis the narrowed arteries restrict the blood flow .

But I could be wrong ..( was going to say "wrong end of the stick" but thought better of it )

PinotPony · 14/01/2021 16:33

I asked my DP to get a male perspective. He said the only time he can't feel whether he has an erection is when he's very drunk as it's all a bit numb! The penis is full of nerve endings. One would imagine your partner must know when he's gone soft so it's strange that he'd carry on without saying something...

Littleideasbigbook · 18/01/2021 11:13

My DP hasn't been floppy but has definitely not been as hard the last three times we have started to have sex. I didn't think about external factors, just thought he had gone off me a bit. I didn't mention it as I didn't want it to be a thing for him, self fulfilling prophecy etc. Maybe it has been the cold! Thanks for posting OP

PinotPony · 18/01/2021 12:21

@PinotPony

I asked my DP to get a male perspective. He said the only time he can't feel whether he has an erection is when he's very drunk as it's all a bit numb! The penis is full of nerve endings. One would imagine your partner must know when he's gone soft so it's strange that he'd carry on without saying something...
This thread ruined my shag yesterday! DP was so busy pondering the extent to which he could "feel his hardness" that he lost all concentration and couldn't cum! That's the last time I ask him for his view on a Mumsnet post..! 😂
SweatyBetty20 · 19/01/2021 11:00

My partner has ED and he can’t usually tell - sometimes he’ll ask me if I think he’s hard enough to get inside me. He described it as a disconnect between his brain and his dick.

1forAll74 · 24/01/2021 05:15

Oh this made me laugh a bit, sorry, I was just relating it to floppy discs, in the 1990 era, something techno I think it was.

BLToutanowhere · 27/01/2021 17:52

As a bloke, that just sounds wrong. Sometimes non cooperation is a given but you really should have some idea if you're ready to go or not.

Get a blood pressure test, just in case.

And talk to him about it.

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