Spicing things up

[CoconutGal]

I'm 29, OH is 30. I always thought I was pretty confident in the bedroom, but OH doesn't have anything in particular that turns him on. Or if he does, he doesn't tell me. When it comes to talking about sex, I'd happily tell my OH the things he does that turn me on from the little kisses on the neck to the foreplay, when there is some.

I'd like to build on that confidence again. I want to spice things up. Try new things with him but I just feel silly asking him since he doesn't really respond or show much interest. Can I have some ideas on how to do this pleeeeeaase?

Il hold back on giving ideas aside from the usual like really hot and risqué lingerie...most guys love that.

What is more important is finding out what he likes as they are all different. I don't believe he doesn't have anything that turns him on, he just doesn't have the confidence to tell you. Sitting down in the sofa and asking for a full list isn't likely to,work.

What I have found previously is whispering things when he is extremely aroused but hasn't cum yet. I have had his cock in my hands and in between sucking and licking him , knowing he was getting near I have whispered tell me what REALLY turned you on and I have found out a lot more at that point. Sometimes he was embarrassed after but i made sure I said to him how much I loved him telling me and I found it a real turn on....it was then easier next time but again him being aroused was the big difference.

Good luck....but don't expect a list each time...just get one thing out of him and take it slowly, but do try it as well

Some people are more vanilla than others though so bare in mind that he might not have a list of things he loves or wants to try. Some men need and want a lot of visual stimulation and new excitement, whereas others just love anything with the right person.