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Cyber-swinging (if such a thing exists!).

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PippaHugo · 27/12/2020 13:44

In the very distant past I used to go on chat rooms with a web cam and enjoy ‘chatting’ to total strangers that way. It was quite an eye-opener for me, and also revealed to me a lot about myself I did not know. However that was very many years ago.

Me and DH have found things a little stale of late, and I think his libido has become a bit low. We were discussing spicing things up, and also discussing fantasies. A close female friend (actually our next-door neighbour, though DH does not know this) had tried swinging, which got me thinking. DH seemed invigorated by the fantasy of swinging including watching me with another man.

However, I am not at all sure how he would cope with the reality ‘in the flesh’.

It therefore made me think about chatrooms and webcams etc and whether that was a safer way to explore these things together. Has anyone experience of dipping their toes in the water that way? I really like the idea of watching and being watched again, and used find it hugely addictive, and it seems a much less threatening way of exploring these things with DH, but I am not at all sure how to go about it these days, nor indeed how to introduce the idea to DH.

Sorry if this is all a little tentative, and I realise there are people who are much more experienced and perhaps much more confident in their relationships than me.

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MisterT373 · 27/12/2020 14:07

Going about it?

Fabswingers has chatrooms with webcam options . Free to sign up so nothing to risk

Ifitsamouse · 27/12/2020 14:12

There are lots of Random cam sites, ie chat roulette where you connect to total strangers, mostly men.

Maybe ask if being watched by bloke is a turn on for him.

PippaHugo · 27/12/2020 14:56

But is it the type of thing a bloke would fantasize, but hate in reality?

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Ifitsamouse · 27/12/2020 15:04

No idea, but they are not there in the room having sex with you, he doesn't have to make polite conversation etc or feel jealous in the same way.

And you can swipe those that dont take your fancy.

Maybe ask him if he likes the idea of being watched. There are also some women on there too who might want to watch.

MisterT373 · 27/12/2020 15:21

I'd start by watching couples or women - and then maybe move on to single guys and let him see how turned on you get with that and if it leads to amazing sex between the two of you then you know it could be working. There is something very sexy about interacting with people on line that takes the mental stimulation beyond porn.

user1471505356 · 28/12/2020 11:05

Be aware they may be recording and you would not want to appear on the internet.

PippaHugo · 28/12/2020 16:00

Thanks! I am embarrassingly experienced in the ways of cyber-sex but not since being in this relationship, and more a question of how he might feel about the reality. Men aren't always predictable!

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Nyctophyllia · 28/12/2020 17:41

It's a step removed so if he doesn't like it then no harm done really...and like previous poster says be aware you may be recorded
I'm sure you know that anyway

wizzywig · 28/12/2020 18:42

How didnl you bring up swinging with your neighbour?

Arnoldthecat · 28/12/2020 19:06

Apparently fabswingers has 200 "new" women join every single day. Day in day out. I think the whole female uk populace must now be members and yet still they come. And why? Because its largely a fake website.

heartlikepaper · 28/12/2020 19:24

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Arnoldthecat · 29/12/2020 18:22

One of my associates used to prattle on about his fantasy of his wife having sex with another man. I told him it was bullshit and that he wouldnt like it if it happened. Also there is the not insignificant matter of his wifes agreement. Anyway i had enough of hearing it and offered to nip round and entertain her. He bottled it and never mentioned it again.

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