Condoms

[CurvyInAllTheWrongPlaces]

Hello, I've been single since last year but have recently had sex with a guy. It was all good fun, but he couldn't come, and said that it was probably the condom.
So could this be true, or could I just be out of practice??

TIA

I doubt it is anything to do with you personally. It could be the condom thing, he might have other issues or it might have been a one off.

This is a case of it isn't you its him.

No matter how thin a condom is it still reduces the sensitivity of the head of the penis. If he isn't used to wearing one then that'll add to the brain melt and also have the added stress of worrying if it will come off while you're DTD.

Lots of things can making coming more difficult.

Being used to different stimulation (no condoms vs condoms, masturbating with a death grip vs being in a vagina), some medication (including some antidepressants), concentrating on not coming.

It's not your fault.

He will very probably have a way to come, and didn't tell you what it was.

Thanks all.
Before this I was in a relationship for 15 years and didn't need condoms.
I am very happy being single and wasn't really looking, but it was fun and may happen again, so is there better condoms on the market?

See the non-latex ones. Durex, Mates, and Pasante all do some.

Thanks!

There is another condom advice thread on here which may help too. Your sexual health is important, so please don’t be tempted to give the condoms a miss. I appreciate you have not suggested as much though.

I realky wouldn’t be overly concerned if this has happened once. Men can be overly nervous creatures with someone new. If you are going to be seeing him again and it keeps happening, that is another matter. It is not you being out of practice though, but maybe he is.

Helping put one on with your mouth can help.

I just pick up a box of what is on offer and throw them in the trolly at the supermarket, then there are no excuses. Of course, if someone provides their own, that’s fine.

StarlightLady, thank you, I will have a look. This is the first time I've posted on these threads so I will have a nosey.
No, will not be suggesting that, don't worry!

Put one on with my mouth??

I always struggled to come when wearing a condom. I've had a vasectomy so it's not an issue for me any more.

Check out theyfit.co.uk for a bit more insight

Dr, glad you can come now!
Mister, I never knew custom condoms existed, I will pass the information on to him, if I ever see him again. Thank you

I hope im not hijacking the post - but had to share as I was upset after I had a night with a lovely lovely guy recently.
He found it really hard to come, and wouldnt put a condom on until the very last minute, a few times even teasing me with gentle unprotected entries.. it was driving me mad.
I dont know whether to see him again now. he obviously much prefers no condoms but i want to play safe and not be tempted.

@heartlikepaper did you tell him not to enter you without a condom? If so definitely don't see him again.

DrDreReturns - Totally agree 100%, no excuses.

i did in the first instance I told him it was a boundary with me and he said well if its a boundary ill respect that and he put on a condom but repeated the teasing next time and i wasnt as firm, and by the end my boundary was down. I was really upset with myself, and made a few resolutions - to always have my own supply of condoms so no man controls the contraception, and to have a chat with him about it if we are going to meet again. i think never seeing him again seems extreme. Why do you say that?

Well if you told him it's a boundary and he ignored it it's a pretty big red flag. How can you trust him if he doesn't respect your consent?

A bit late on this.
But he should always respect your boundaries.
Consent is paramount.

"But he should always respect your boundaries.
Consent is paramount." yeah i know :(
Im disappointed as he was such a sweet sweet guy otherwise.
Im bringing my own condoms in future so there can be no messing!

Its not you OP by the way. Lots of guys say they cant come with condoms, but also ive been with 2 recently who couldnt come at all with me, only by masturbation, dont know what thats about but i didnt take it personally

Hi Op from a male viewpoint you could try Exure condoms available from eBay they have a tighter feel and I read somewhere that they were developed for another market area in the world.

Have used them in the past would not again but if tightness or lack of feeling is the problem this may be the answer.

Hope this helps.

heartlikepaper, if you want to see the guy again, make it absolutely clear.

Yeah I think some guys can't, but I've decided that that has more to do with them than me.

Voyager54, thanks for your input.
I doubt there will be a repeat performance, but I will keep the knowledge.
Thanks

I was dating a guy for a while who the first few times couldn't cum at all wearing a condom. I then took things in hand (pun intended) and worked on him, doing oral as well, until he felt he was nearly there then put the condom on him quickly and had sex. He could still go for a while (thankfully!) but then was able to cum, probably because he was so nearly there anyway. Worth a try maybe @CurvyInAllTheWrongPlaces?

There are really 2 stages to look at here

1. Whether he can stay hard with a condom on
2. Whether he can cum with a condom on

If he can stay hard with a condom on then there is plenty of opportunity for PIV sex, ok the sensation of skin to skin and sensitivity isnt there but you are still giving pleasure.

Fortunately there are other alternative to making a guy cum and hands and mouths are your friends here. From a man's point of view I'm not convinced that cuming inside a woman gives me more pleasure than her making me cum by hand. It actually means I can actually lay back and enjoy it as opposed to working for it.

It could be true. Don't let it be used by him as a pressure to have sex without one though.