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New man - sex / playing for 5-10hours everytime

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Lilyane · 22/12/2020 19:51

So I have been seeing a man for about 3 months. He is very sexual and we usually play with each other for hours and have sex (yesterday for example we started 9pm and ended up playing with each other /have sex until 4am). We normally see each other only once a week, but planned to see each other twice this week and I’m struggling to imagine I will have to have sex for that long again tomorrow. I love sex but with previous partners I would have sex for about 40mins with foreplay. Is this normal ?! I’m so exhausted... he said he just loves sex and seeing me cum again and again. He cums only once at the end (very good self control). We have dom/sub relationship if that makes any difference. He is very dominant and in charge - not sure how I can cope with this...have you ever met anyone like that? Will it go down with intensity with time?

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Lilyane · 22/12/2020 19:52

I’m exhausted

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ramesesmaze · 22/12/2020 20:05

I struggle to see what the problem is here? If you don't want to go on for 8 hours then tell him? I get the sub/Dom thing, and maybe twice a week will be ok for recovery time, if you want that. If you ever end up seeing each other more often, it's not sustainable. If you're uncomfortable, exhausted and don't want it, you need to say so, particularly if there is a BDSM power thing at play.

MorganKitten · 22/12/2020 20:44

Just talk to him, plus if you see him more it’ll slow down anyway and you’ll get a new routine.

thumpingrug · 22/12/2020 22:48

Its a new relationship so things are generally a bit more intense. It may settle down in time. That said we have been together 30 years and I could easily play for a weekend solid given a chance.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 23/12/2020 02:11

If you can't be honest about the sex you're having with someone, you shouldn't be having sex with them.

I truly believe that.

Littlefluffyclouds13 · 23/12/2020 10:09

When I was first with dh we were like that, we literally spent the whole day in bed, got up ate, showered and then repeat....
We had the spare time in those days and we BOTH wanted to do it, talk to your dp, if you're not enjoying something you should feel able to talk honestly with your dp.

LKJG · 23/12/2020 10:51

I really wouldn’t like that so would be having a word. Maybe a once a month treat for him if he likes it but every other time keep it to within what you deem enjoyable.

Mxflamingnoravera · 23/12/2020 11:09

I agree with the pps who say you need to talk and be able to talk.

Just say "I need a break" if it's getting too much/you're getting sore and be clear you mean it.

Oryxx · 23/12/2020 16:08

Tell him when you’ve had enough. That’s what your safeword is for.

mooncats · 23/12/2020 16:42

I’m struggling to imagine I will have to have sex

Huge red flag here . You will have to ? Why isn't saying 'hey this is dragging on for too long for me and I prefer an early night / watch a movie / we cuddle , an option ? If you don't feel comfortable enough to express something this basic you shouldn't be having sex with him

nosswith · 23/12/2020 17:43

I am a man. I had a relationship with a woman who was much more orgasmic than any other. Even with that one it was never more than a couple of hours at one time.

In any case, you are uncomfortable with this, which is the reason you should object to it, and if he is not OK with this, could be the end of the relationship I think.

Bottledupagain · 23/12/2020 22:10

This has red flags for me.
Are you enjoying it at the time?

outdooryone · 24/12/2020 10:49

I agree with some of the concerns above.

However, I am also intrigued in how you 'play' for so long? Surely there are some issues of chafing, perhaps a comfort break, maintaining arousal (~etc?)

Don't get me wrong, I enjoy (and now miss) a long, slow session, but your experience seems excessive...

Ori2021 · 24/12/2020 13:10

God that sounds like hard work. I’d rather have a cup of tea & a shortbread biscuit. Tell him to finish himself off!

PinotPony · 24/12/2020 16:49

Are you saying that you just want the experience to be shorter in duration or that you'd like some evenings / nights without sex?

I agree with PPs... you have to tell him. Even though he is dominant, he should be concerned about your well-being and willing to listen to any concerns.

Just tell him you're better at 10k rather than marathons!

cosmicbabe · 24/12/2020 17:40

I can have Sex for hours and not cum lol. I don't k ow what you're moaning about!!

NoProblem123 · 25/12/2020 00:58

I feel sore just reading this.
Tell him if it’s not what you want in standard MN lingo ‘this doesn’t work for me’.

Firenight · 26/12/2020 19:05

Its perfectly ok to take a break for cuppa and a snack too. A marathon session can be amazing but I'm a great believer in a tea break.

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