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Small Penis

23 replies

Wintertime1973 · 17/12/2020 16:39

Hello,

Someone I am seeing as a very small penis even when fully erected, if we have sex I know I am not going to feel him at all, help how do we get around this?

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Hotchocolatewithcream · 17/12/2020 17:16

You can’t imo.
Harsh but true.

Blushingm · 17/12/2020 19:01

How small is small?

firesong · 17/12/2020 19:56

I've only dated one with a very small penis. It definitely affected sex. He was good with his hands but didn't "go down" either. I was ok with that at 20, I am twice that now and would not be ok with it. Small penis, ok. Small penis and no oral? No. Big penis and no oral? Also no.

Wintertime1973 · 18/12/2020 07:49

Thank you all for your comments, he gives oral but I need sex too and I am sick of giving blow jobs!

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AverageGuy · 18/12/2020 08:35

I'm told that different positions work better for those less well endowed, and no, I'm not speaking from personal experience!

I'd suggest that, if you want to stick with him, you experiment.

FinnGermey · 18/12/2020 15:57

How small is small?

Asking for a friend...

lunalulu · 18/12/2020 23:42

Ha

lunalulu · 18/12/2020 23:42

@FinnGermey

How small is small?

Asking for a friend...

To this!
lunalulu · 18/12/2020 23:42

Small is less than average when erect.

And/or thin.

Wintertime1973 · 19/12/2020 15:27

So do you think anal would actually work or is it not worth trying?

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lasttangoinscunthorpe · 19/12/2020 22:09

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Rgy3250999 · 20/12/2020 18:12

Why do these threads have to come across really mean-spirited? If blokes were to create a similar thread talking about poor sex with women with big vaginas or small/floppy/deflated tits, women would moan like hell.

Sex with anyone that makes an effort to please you can be good. If you want to know whether anal sex is good with a small penis, why not try it? Small means nothing without size and your hole(s) may vary in size to the next woman.

Hotchocolatewithcream · 20/12/2020 19:00

If blokes were to create a similar thread talking about poor sex with women with big vaginas or small/floppy/deflated tits, women would moan like hell
It’s true that women would be offended but, and I say this as a woman, I do imagine that sex with a woman with a loose vagina is probably just as unsatisfying for men as sex with a man with a tiny dick is for women.

It is a horrible, horrible thing to say I know but small dicks just aren’t enjoyable..

Bottledupagain · 20/12/2020 20:42

I once ended up in bed with a friend. I class him as a 1/2 in my number count as to this day I'm still not sure if it went in. It was like a chipolata sausage. I feel so bad for the guy.

MrsFluffyMuff · 20/12/2020 22:45

I think I'm in a minority but I prefer men on the smaller side, anything above 5 or 6 inches hurts. Every time I've slept with a man bigger than that I haven't been able to enjoy it

Namechangednorth · 21/12/2020 09:00

@MrsFluffyMuff

I suspect the OP isn't talking about one which is 5-6 inches long which 5 inch is I think the average.

But yes anything smaller is far less enjoyable even for someone who is on the more "petite" side down below

MrsFluffyMuff · 21/12/2020 09:15

The smallest I've been with was probably 3 or 4 inches and it was fine, cant comment on anything smaller than that

How small are you talking OP

again2020 · 21/12/2020 15:07

Legs on shoulders for deeper penetration, my partner has a small penis and I can definitely feel more and enjoy it more then.

If he's the open minded type, what about penis sleeves or a penis pump? Lovehoney have loads.

Arnoldthecat · 21/12/2020 19:55

Kiss him goodbye and look for someone else with a bigger dick.

TitOfTheIceberg · 23/12/2020 17:35

It depends on whether you're talking micropenis or just an inch or two smaller than average (which can seem small if you're only used to even slightly above average).

For me girth is more important than length. I'm quite small inside and it doesn't take much to hit my cervix which is uncomfortable. Smaller cocks are also much easier to give blowjobs to!

My DH's, ahem, appendage could probably be best described as short but fat, which suits me perfectly. Best angles for penetration are my legs over his shoulders, me on top 'grinding' or doggy with me on the bed with my shoulders down and my arse up and him standing. It also helps if the guy has his weight under control, as small dick + big gut is not a successful combination and exacerbates the issue.

TMI alert: ironically some of our less successful couplings have been when I've been so turned on I'm too wet for good friction (because the simple fact is it's easier for him to slip out) but luckily his oral skills are second to none so we do other things, or sometimes I'll have a quick wipe to mop up the 'excess' and we'll try again.

I'll be absolutely honest, he is at the lower limit of what I'd find physically satisfying, any smaller or thinner and I think I'd struggle, so I do have sympathy for those who are genuinely tiny (or who are with someone who is) but so much of sex is mental and my DH and I click so well, I'm sure in lots of ways we've had a better sex life than many people who have/are with men with more average-sized or bigger penises. I have the very occasional fantasy about being 'filled' but in reality I'd probably just end up with horrendous cystitis so I never really want to act on it! Grin

OP, if he is committed to pleasing you and you are compatible in all other ways, try not to overthink or get hung up on his size as you might risk throwing away a great relationship. Only you know if it's a dealbreaker for you, and if any of the suggestions above will work. Good luck.

Chocolate1984 · 26/12/2020 23:10

My husband has a small penis. It was fine but never mind blowing. After kids and a prolapse I don’t even feel him and just go through the motions. As he has got older and fatter I think it has shrunk slightly too.

LetsGoToTheHills · 27/12/2020 21:31

TitOfTheIceberg makes some excellent points.

I have a new FWB who has a smaller than average penis and it’s the best sex I have ever had! I admit I was dismayed when I first felt/saw it but he has some very good moves to compensate (kind of rubs his pelvis up and down instead of straight in and out). He also gives great oral and stimulates my G spot with his hands.

There are two actual advantages for me. Firstly, I can just get it all in my mouth. I love the feeling it gives me to be able to give him that pleasure without gagging. Secondly, I have felt comfortable trying anal for the first time...which I LOVE! So I would say don’t dismiss him out of hand...we have sex sessions that last a couple of hours in all manner of positions and I’m having the time of my life!

Kittykat93 · 28/12/2020 09:20

Think it depends how small. Smaller than average can still mean good sex ! But if it's a micropenis I'm not sure I could live with that,however horrible that sounds. It's awful as it's obviously not something they can control but its just a personal preference. I also wouldn't like a massive one !

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