Anxiety about poo and sex!

[Tux9090]

I’ve developed a bit of a neurosis about, ahem, my bowels and sex...

I’m not sure even how it started, but I’ve begun to feel very nervous before sex. I often have to go for a poo - sometimes several - before my bf arrives, and it’s got to the stage where I now work myself into such a state about needing to ‘go’ during sex that I need even more nervous poos! It’s created a cycle where I’m scared to have sex in case I need to go halfway through...

Help! How can I get rid of this ridiculous phobia?

(Have name changed for this obvs!)

Get into coprafilia - two birds one stone!

I'm joking BTW

That did occur to me!

You could try douching a couple of hours before he arrives to clean yourself out. But do bear in mind that you shouldn't douche more than once every couple of weeks so it's not something you'd want to start obsessively doing every time you have sex!

How is your diet? If you eat healthily with lots of fibre then that should give you some reassurance.

I guess I would do what I would do if I started any kind of destructive habit - I would try to resist giving into the panic and would try mediation etc.
Are your poos very loose? Can you eat more 'binding' foods like eggs etc?

I'd be reluctant to go down the douching/mini enema route as it does not tackle the destructive thoughts you are having, but actually submits to them.

It is a fact that evolution sited the playground next to the sewage outlet; that is an unfortunate piece of design, but it is what it is. Most of us cope quite happily with it, but not you and it is now affecting your health and quality of life. I would suggest that you talk to your GP about sourcing some expert help on the feelings you experience.

This is nothing to do with poo and everything to do with anxiety. I used to think the same about meetings at work and yep, ended up freaking out in meetings! Try some hypnosis for relaxation. Also try acceptance: if you really need to "go" during sex, you will 5ell your partner that you don't feel well and end the sex. That is ALL that will happen. You will not explode and poo all over him! I never had an accident in a meeting, and you will not during sex.