I feel so unnattractive

[Isitjustme123]

Maybe I am being too sensitive but here goes as I really could do with some advice.
I have been with my partner for just over a year and I moved in with them in August.

Problem is we hardly ever have sex. I have said it makes me feel feel unattractive and unloved. She says she loves me alot but never shows it sexually.I have brought the issue up and she once said she felt Like I was pestering which hurt me alot.

When I do say how I feel it still makes no difference and still she is not sexually interested. . When I am quiet next day she asks if she has done something wrong ! Really? Why does she think I am a bit quiet or seemingly distant?

We have had sex twice in over three months. Albeit we have gad alot to deal with and she has been caring for her grandad. Now we are back home and we have gad sex once and She orgasmed then fell asleep.

Even the past few months we rarely have sex. I have had my hair done, dress nice, but she seems oblivious to the fact I am upset and I have told her why.

She is all her mum and dad as well its like theres four of us in the relationship! Its constant, dad this dad that. If only she took a little more interest in her relationship with me. Its the pure blindness of not seeing how I feel even when I say something then she says she hates her body but she gets out the shower and walks naked in front of me so how can it be that?

Then we go to bed says night and if she heres me sigh she asks whats the matter, seriously?I find it hurtful and feel if could well harm us long term. But I can’t say anymore than I have already.

You said yourself she's had a lot to deal with. Have you considered that emotionally you have to be in the right headspace to want sex?

Nudity post shower is not for your gaze. Do you expect her to get dressed in the bathroom? Leave her alone and give her privacy without assuming that every act of undressing is for you.

If someone sighed when I got to bed I wouldn't want to have sex with them either. It's passive aggressive and not an attractive trait at all.

I would leave now before you get too invested and are posting here in 5 years with the same or worse problem

@Isitjustme123
I'm going out on a limb here, but I'm not 100% certain that this is a "mixed sex" relationship. Maybe TMI, but are you both female?

"But I can’t say anymore than I have already."

Just my humble opinion, but I think you are completely wrong in saying that.

Communication is key in a relationship, particularly about sex. I'd say you two need to have an open and honest discussion about your sex life. You need to tell her how the lack of sex is making you feel, and ask her if her relationship with her parents is causing her stress - maybe offer some help?

As @Namechanged1010 says, you don't want to put up with this situation for years, although I'd say leaving the relationship is a bit of an excessive response at the moment.

It will only get worse, she is probably not that sexual and it isn't that important to her which is why she doesn't get there is a problem.

All you can do is be honest and say sex every few months is a deal breaker fo you

I cannot see why this being a same-gender relationship would make the slightest bit of difference to what is happening between the two people in it.

What we have is a basic mismatch of sexual desires, and the only way it will work is if the partner with the higher libido buries their sex drive. If the OP wishes to do that for the rest of her life, that is fine. It would not work for me, but we are all different.

The fact that she is posting here is for me a sign that her relationship is a house built on sand. Sex is the physical manifestation of love for someone and the two are inextricably linked; if either factor is lacking then most relationships are doomed in my experience.