Dressing up

[MandB23]

Maybe I’m asking for a make perspective?
But any opinions welcome.
So I’ve bought some ‘sexy’ lingerie and for some reason feel embarrassed about just surprising my husband with it.
Am I being ridiculous?
What if he isn’t up for it and I rock up al dressed up and clearly ready and raring to go?
For some reason, I feel embarrassed and like I need to warn him but also think a surprise would be good?

Why not test the waters if you don't want to embarrass yourself? Ask him 'What if I were to buy some lingerie? You know I want to be as attractive as possible for you. How would you feel about that?' If he says, 'Meh' then you may have wasted your money, but if he shows some enthusiasm then you are ahead of the game.

You are not being silly...it's natural to be concerned.

Are you thinking of wearing it under an outfit, sort of date night or for him to come and find you wearing it in the bedroom?

What I did on one occasion was a sort of date night, had dinner sat at the table but after a few wines etc...we had both dressed up but under my skirt etc I had my new lingerie on which was pretty risqué. One we had finished main course I got a bit flirty and showing a bit more and he started getting the idea..and definitely was in the mood.

He was really up for it finding it was extremely skimpy and also open fronted...so go for it and good luck

@MandB23 - man here (obviously? )

I'd say the trick is to be confident in yourself, and your body. If the lingerie makes you feel sexy, it will improve your confidence, and that comes across (imho, a confident woman is a sexy woman)

Depending on his age, I wouldn't worry that your OH might react, er, inappropriately.. Maybe tease him with the odd "accidental" flash during the evening before hand?

Most men would love their ladies to make an effort and dress up. Go for it. He will be putty in your hands.

I know what you mean, OP! I always feel a bit daft parading down the stairs all dressed up. He's never turned me down but I still feel a little silly at first. To combat this I usually put it on under a dress so I can give him a kiss and find out that way if he's interested. Then when he runs his hands up my leg he realises I've got stockings on. Then that way it's not such a big out of the blue reveal if that makes sense.

Ok. So general consensus is not to do a big reveal like im some goddess. Because to be frank, I’d make myself cringe if I did that.
I shall hide it under something else!!!

I'm sure that will work well as a first go. You will know what gets him going anyway to start exploring but if not you can give him a hint I'm sure

Since I transitioned I've had to learn a lot from a woman's perspective. I've found that a woman wearing sexy lingerie is a fantasy for most men. Let him find out flash a bit of stocking or a glimpse of a lacy bra.
Men love the thought of what is hidden.