Awkward trying different positions *sexual abuse trigger

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I have been with my partner just over a year, and the sex is great. I think that he was a little inexperienced at first, but he really took the time to figure out what felt good for both of us, and it's been great.

Last night, we wanted to try doing it from behind, like doggy style. But it was a little awkward finding a position that worked. We did it for a bit, but ended up going back to our usual missionary.

I also find it a little tough, because my exh was abusive and always insisted on doing me from behind. I mean, sometimes with out my consent, and always with a lot of coercion.

It felt completely different with my current partner, in that the awkwardness was funny and it felt good and wanted. Is it just a matter of practice? He's a lot taller than me, so bending over the bed didn't really work out. Any tips for getting in a good position, or is it best to stick with what you know works?

Try: you in all fours on the bed, him standing on the floor.
If it’s a question of different heights creating a “mechanical” awkwardness, you need to try subtlety different tactics. Pillow under the knees to or shoulders down on the mattress will raise you up; drawing yourself forward will lower you down.

Thanks. I definitely want to try again, but it's just going to take a little adjusting, because I think that maybe I go up at an angle or something.

Its amazing what a slight change of angles can do. Instead of you having arms extended drop down so your shoulders are on the bed. Pillows are great too even under the pelvis. Your partner can also vary his height- silly as it sounds- get him to stand on tip toes or even a slight crouch until you find that sweet spot! Its always fun trying! Enjoy.

aside from the mechanics (which is all about experimentation), might it help to place yourselves in front of a mirror, so you could see where he is and maybe feel a bit more in control. You could just start off standing up, him behind you, and just explore as you feel comfortable.

Alternatively, reverse cowgirl gives you some of the 'from' behind benefits but because you're on top you'll probably feel much more in control.