What would be the ultimate dirty talk turn on for you?

[FortuneSailedAway]

So, DH and I have discussed that I need more vocal stimulation. This doesn't come naturally to him, but he is willing to try if I'm willing to reciprocate a bit. But I struggle because although I have a lot of very deep rooted, quite kinky thoughts and fantasies, I really struggle to narrow them down to one solid train of thoughts i can articulate. Which isn't fair to him, if I cant give guidance.

If absolutely any words / phrases could be said to you during sex, what sorts of things would be your personal ultimate turn on? And no, this isn't some sort of troll post. I'm genuinely interested to hear what works for other people and how they verbalise that so I can get inspiration for how to progress this with DH.

The "Thats so good", "I want to hear you cum" sort of stuff doesn't really do it for me. I need more.

The ultimate is hearing what he really wants to say and will tell no one else . There isn't a prescribed set of words that work . As a guide , a graphic description of things he wants to do to you , how you make him feel . For example , my guy will tell me how slutty I am and I love it

Did a workshop on dirty talk recently... let me find my notes..!

i didnt know i liked this until my last b/f talked to me during sex and it was such a turn on!
He'd tell me what he felt from me, like how fit my muscles were, how wet i was, how good i felt around him, how hot i made him, what he wanted to do to me next, or make suggestions like 'would you like me to...' oh the memories...
maybe he had taken your course @PinotPony !

Prep - how do they want themselves / their genitalia to be referred to? Ask!
Dirty talk without declaration - just because you say it, doesn't mean you are intending to do it, can just be fantasy.
Keep it open - "What if I...?", "Maybe I'll do..,"
Be non-specific so your person can write their own adventure - "I'm going to run my tongue where you want it most"
Choices - "do you want me to do X or Y?"
Questions -"tell me about a time when you.... how did it feel?"
Recount a scene - "remember when we..,?"
Talk about what you know / your desires - "I'd like to do XYZ to you"
Pauses - don't fill the silence - build anticipation
Noises - little purrs, sighs, moans, laughter (fun!)
Tone of voice- don't have to whisper but speak calmly and with conviction
Listen to erotica - get ideas!
Create your own audio erotica - listen back to it
Talk to yourself - practice - you know what arouses you!

Hope that gives you some tips and ideas 😁

@heartlikepaper

i didnt know i liked this until my last b/f talked to me during sex and it was such a turn on! He'd tell me what he felt from me, like how fit my muscles were, how wet i was, how good i felt around him, how hot i made him, what he wanted to do to me next, or make suggestions like 'would you like me to...' oh the memories... maybe he had taken your course *@PinotPony* !

Sounds fantastic. He clearly didn't need a course!! 😉

Thanks @PinotPony that's brilliant, didn't even know such courses existed!

I have always been a huge fan of aural sex (pun absolutely intended, by the way). I love dirty talk, both giving and receiving, the moans, the gasps, and the little expletives of pleasure, etc.

One of my best erotic memories was lying in bed with my then wife in a Spanish hotel in the early hours of the morning. There was an atrium in the middle of the hotel and through the open windows I could clearly hear the ecstatic moans of a nearby woman and her partner making love. It was a huge turn-on, so I roused (& aroused) my wife and we listened carefully to the symphony of sexy sounds until we returned the favour by making our own soundtrack.

FortuneSailedAway, good luck with your dirty talk adventures; I hope you have lots of fun.

I like really crude, dirty talk, but you have to know that that will be well received.

See so do I, I think @TheWitchCirce but DH just says he doesn't know what I mean. And in fairness I cant really think of examples to demonstrate and feel like if I have to basically teach him a script, I wouldn't be turned on by it anyway...

Perhaps start with a little sexting - might be easier to write than to say, whilst you're both getting used to what turns the other one on? Perhaps text him using the words you'd like to hear, telling him exactly what you would like him to do to you tonight.

That way you're offering him a script - but not a script if you know what I mean.

It doesn't come easy I think for most people...taking it slowly is key to it. If he says something to you, unless you really hate it, respond enthusiastically and maybe say something back. It doesn't feel right at first (we are a normal couple not swinging from the light fittings but have tried to spice this up more over the last couple of years to keep things good in the bedroom

My DH tried when he was turned on ..I asked what he was thinking and he said "imagining what a slut you are". I was really pleased he had tried so basically said " shall I show you how slutty I can be". Went from there.

Another night he instructed me to " open your legs slut ". I won't go in any more but you need to be open minded and feel that it will work for both of you and both participate. It can be very erotic and a turn on if you get it right

DONT laugh though...will kill it

I think people will be limited what they want to put on here for fear of the Daily Mail. DM if you want but I think you get the jist

Have fun

What course is this???

Ahh I have a vocal one now.... he's amazing. Never thought I'd like a noisy man but my god he does things to me.

@wizzywig

What course is this???

A Killing Kittens workshop run by LolaJean. There's some audio erotica samples on her website...

lolajean.com/velvet-tip-studios

@PinotPony aah thank you. Off to Google this

You could try these...might give you a few ideas to get started.

www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=35693

Literotica website is also worth a look.

If you're struggling a bit with doing it 'live' try using audio record on your phone and send pre-recorded messages to start with.

@Namechangednorth

It doesn't come easy I think for most people...taking it slowly is key to it. If he says something to you, unless you really hate it, respond enthusiastically and maybe say something back. It doesn't feel right at first (we are a normal couple not swinging from the light fittings but have tried to spice this up more over the last couple of years to keep things good in the bedroom

My DH tried when he was turned on ..I asked what he was thinking and he said "imagining what a slut you are". I was really pleased he had tried so basically said " shall I show you how slutty I can be". Went from there.

Another night he instructed me to " open your legs slut ". I won't go in any more but you need to be open minded and feel that it will work for both of you and both participate. It can be very erotic and a turn on if you get it right

DONT laugh though...will kill it

I think people will be limited what they want to put on here for fear of the Daily Mail. DM if you want but I think you get the jist

Have fun

Dont laugh??

For me laughing is essential. Obv timing and context is important but we are both relaxed and comfortable. I find laughter such an insane turn on and the thought of seriousness and absolutely no laughter a massive turn off!

@CluelessWriter

You could try these...might give you a few ideas to get started.

www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=35693

Literotica website is also worth a look.

If you're struggling a bit with doing it 'live' try using audio record on your phone and send pre-recorded messages to start with.

I used to love literotica then I found a story with myriads of chapters which was insanely good. Nothing to do with getting me horny but just a phenomenal fantasy story of otherworldly characters. In the end I stopped reading them because I was filled with incredible stories I couldn't share for fear people would know I was reading erotic fiction!

@shouldhavecalleditoatabix

I write erotic fan fiction as a hobby...I have no shame!!!