Question for women

[Clarkeyy]

So I'm 43 and have been on my own for the past 12 years and recently been talking to a 28yr old fella. We started seeing each other and the sex is amazing. Hes very well endowed but everytime after sex he asks if I cum but I've never ever cum throu penitrive sex just. Now he thinks hes doin something wrong cause app every single woman he sleeps with cums multiple times anyways questions is do you women cum throu sex just?

They've all been lying to him...

He's either delusional or been lied to

He’s been lied to.... time to re-educate him on how things actually work, lol - and have great fun doing it!

I used to fake it when I was younger because I was too embarrassed to say i needed more than PIV. Now I realise most women need clit stimulation to orgasm. The thing is most young men watch porn, where women have huge 'orgasms' from the mere touch of a penis. And then if the real women they sleep with fake it, they never learn. Unfortunately if a man thinks every woman he has slept with has been having multiple orgasms he's not going to want to be told thats highly unlikely!

Well what works for others doesn't for all. I never climaxed through PIV with previous partners but with my current partner I do almost every time. Not necessarily doing out wrong but maybe like others said others faked it 🤷🏼‍♀️

Hahah that's what I said they've all been lyin to him oh il just have to teach him 😁😁 thanks all

Honesty has caught up with him. OP, you are older (and similar age to me), it’s time to provide an education service and provide the benefit of your wisdom. Just tell him to get his head down there and get on with his job.

Foreplay is sex, oral is sex, it’s not all about penetration. After you have climaxed, then he can have the invite to enter.

Like the sound of that starlight lady

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@StarlightLady

Honesty has caught up with him. OP, you are older (and similar age to me), it’s time to provide an education service and provide the benefit of your wisdom. Just tell him to get his head down there and get on with his job.

Foreplay is sex, oral is sex, it’s not all about penetration. After you have climaxed, then he can have the invite to enter.

@StarlightLady : This site really does need a thumbs-up option !!

What @StarlightLady said, with knobs on

Depends how much foreplay I've had first

Depends how many "everyone else" is. If he's only slept with a few women it's possible it's true. If lots, very doubtful.

I only come through penetration and usually do so multiple times. Either PiV, anal or fingering. All work for me with no other simulation. I enjoy other stuff, but it doesn't cause climax. Although, DH does spend as long as I want on foreplay, so that probably helps with PiV orgasms.

Similar to @NameChangeNemo here - I only come through penetration, preferably PIV. Foreplay is nice as a warm-up act but too much is annoying. I know this is unusual and statistically most women don't reach orgasm though penetration. So it's possible he's had a sex partner like that, but statistically unlikely that they've am been like that ; he's been lied to.

I can come from PIV but only if im on top.

OP, you ever watched When Harry Met Sally ?

Oh god I can only cum from Clit but when with my BF it just takes forever. I mean like an hour or more. By the end I'm more sore than excited lol. I feel bad for him and me. It's super frustrating. But I guess that's a different thread x

I don’t understand why you don’t fake it if he’s going to cause you pain fir an hour.

Why should any woman fake it?

@Nomnomarrgh

I don’t understand why you don’t fake it if he’s going to cause you pain fir an hour.

To be fair I have faked it long before I met him and though not anymore this is rediculous. But to be honest when I don't fake it and I don't feel like I will orgasm what do you do? Just be honest and say sorry not going to happen. It dents both Egos I think. It's like a catch 22.... Then it becomes the elephant in the room. I've done it to myself I know.

Instead of faking it and saying its just not going to happen why not say ''I could maybe orgasm if you do xyz?'' I had an ex who wouldn't do anything other than PIV, If your partner is like that then I feel for you @cosmicbabe

I think it’s ludicrous to suggest that a woman should even condider faking it because a man can’t do his job properly.

And a man who would only offer PIV would not have crossed the threshold into my bedroom in the first place.

So I can say hand on heart my current BF tries everything. He's the first guy I've been with in my 40 years (awful I know) to have made me cum!! I'm the one that normally stops as I think he must get bored, I'm bored. Ect... so it's not him. It's me. I just wish I could reach orgasm in a more satisfying timescale. Even under 30 minutes would be fine!

However on my own I can get the job done in 5 minutes lol. Ffs

I feel v amused to be joining in this chat. No sex in 5 years and counting. I just think if you have to keep going until he heard you orgasm fake it. Or find someone new. I detested the pre-sex stuff and would sooner not orgasm at all.

The problem I have with DH is that he is so bloody good with foreplay, by the time he penetrates me I can come within seconds.

@Clarkeyy suggest you educate him on foreplay. It is a skill that a man needs to learn early on in life!