I’ve been bothered by a strange weekend away I had a while ago and not sure if it’s normal or I am being over-sensitive. We’re not together anymore so I suppose most answers will be “don’t give it anymore thought” but if it’s something about me I’d like to work on it.
It was my birthday trip away and we’d had a nice dinner, champagne etc and gone back to the room. He’d then phoned his mum so I got sex was off the cards (he wasn’t usually keen anyway so this wasn’t a surprise). Anyway I fell asleep while he was chatting to his mum. I woke up to him asking for a blow job with his erection in my face and did start to go along with it, however because I was very full and had been drinking it wasn’t possible. Anyway he didn’t try to move onto sex instead but rather while I slept/laid awkwardly next to him pretending not to feel weird he was up on his knees wanking himself off... not over me btw.... he wasn’t even near me particularly, it was a twin bed room, or looking in my direction. on my birthday night.
I felt pretty crap and awkward about this the whole weekend.
A couple of days later we were at a public spa and he was pressuring me to give him a blow job there too. There were many people about and we were with another couple. He said he would leave if I didn’t do it and I would have to explain that to my friends and I was being ungrateful for the spa trip he had paid for. I suggested we go to the toilets etc as I wasn’t comfortable being in a sauna etc where anyone could walk in but he wasn’t happy with that suggestion and so we did neither. He stormed off to another part of the spa and I hung out on my own for a little while, went to join friends later. The final day he lectured me on what was wrong with me and that he had been trying it on with me all weekend and I “wasn’t up for it” but tbh by this point I was feeling pretty awkward about those two encounters and so wasn’t really feeling like suggesting we sleep together instead of me just giving him a blow job. He was really annoyed and said as there was one more night left of the break but I had to return home for work the next day that he may stay and invite someone else who would want to sleep with him. At this point we had been in a relationship for 3 years so this was not a normal thing to say.
I think I need some reassurance that other people’s husbands don’t act like this, or maybe some insight if I had over reacted as other than the sexual things we had a really nice weekend away!