Younger Man

[Wintertime1973]

Why would a 26 year old man be interested in a 46 year old women?
I know the obvious answer is sex but surely he can get that off a person his own age.......

I had a brief thing with a 48yo woman when I was about 25. I did it because I wanted to, I liked her as a person and I fancied her.

A young man would probably be interested in an older woman because she was not an airhead. When I was younger I simply found that many women of my own age to be shallow in the extreme.

Once one has a bit of life experience, one realises that the body may age, but the mind matures.

I had a number of brief relationships with older women when I was younger. The age gap ranged from five years to thirty years. Some were married. I was always attracted to the person. (still am today) I have great affection for these women they taught me A LOT.
Age is just a number

There have been a few occasions when someone in their early 20s has tried to chat me up (now early 40s) in recent years.

My dh is considerably younger than me. We got so much grief when we first got together and it I really did question why he was with me.

The fact was he fancied the pants off me (still does) and we ended up falling in love.
12 years on, I've hardly aged (luck mostly) and he has. I think men look hugely different from their 20s to 40s and while he does still look younger than me, the gap has considerably reduced and people barely notice anymore.

Op, are you looking for a relationship or something less serious? Obviously long term has it issues when the age gap is large but if it's just a fling I would just go for it!

I really don't think it's that unusual. My best mate and I are both mid forties. We are quite difference looks, personality and lifestyle wise but for both of us the majority of the attention we get is from men in their early to mid thirties.

Make the most of it...experience is it's own reward .

I'm 35 and I've found i get attention from younger men when I'm out

I once had a 20 year old approach me in a bar. He was absolutely beautiful! If only I wasn't married!

Enjoy. Ive found a lot of men are into older women. They like the experience and wisdom that comes with age. You aren't some self obsessed, shallow waif.

I'm 46 and have been with my 28 yo man for almost a year.
He's emotionally mature, great at communicating and fit AF! It helps that we only see each other every fortnight.
I think I'm in pretty good shape despite having had 2 children. He often tells me he loves my body and forgets my age. He says that it's nice to be with someone who's confident and self-assured. I don't play games like some of his previous partners. I challenge him mentally too... we have long debates about interesting topics... I guess I'm kind of "educating" him.
There are times where he doesn't get my references - had never heard of X Files! - but I enjoy introducing him to "old" tv.
We've talked about whether there is any longevity in the relationship and agreed just to live for now. 😍

I think the danger of a younger men and older woman.. Is visual.
When your in your late 60's, he will be in late 40's and probably not attracted to you.
That's my honest opinion and don't mean to be rude. He will probably still be attracted to 40 something women.
I know a couple who have been together a long time, she's 15+ years older than him and she treats him like another child and they seem to have little in common. Well to me an outsider that's what I see but I may be wrong.

@Livandme I disagree, going purely on physical appearance, so many of my female friends look so much better/younger than their partners who are the same age. I think men age very suddenly at 40ish (and that is obviously fine!)
I'm considerably older than my dh and the gap gets smaller as we both age. He actually worries I'm going to trade him in (I'm not, he's hot!)

@PinotPony

I'm 46 and have been with my 28 yo man for almost a year. He's emotionally mature, great at communicating and fit AF! It helps that we only see each other every fortnight. I think I'm in pretty good shape despite having had 2 children. He often tells me he loves my body and forgets my age. He says that it's nice to be with someone who's confident and self-assured. I don't play games like some of his previous partners. I challenge him mentally too... we have long debates about interesting topics... I guess I'm kind of "educating" him. There are times where he doesn't get my references - had never heard of X Files! - but I enjoy introducing him to "old" tv. We've talked about whether there is any longevity in the relationship and agreed just to live for now. 😍

I love this story. Keep enjoying the journey.

On that classiest of apps, Plenty of Fish, there are lots of young men who lie about their age and say they're older than they really are, because they want older women to find them on searches. Then they tell you their real age in their bio / chat. Who knew?! I've been finding it very flattering getting messages from these lads, though I am not planning on pursuing it!

My fwb is quite a few years younger. I have dated younger than that too.
My rule is they have to be older than my daughter (not that I ever introduced her and my grandchildren to any fling I have).
If I was to meet someone serious then it might be different.
Im not super fit but I'm intelligent (imo obviously 😉) and in some cases it has been about experience....
Mrs Robinson springs to mind 🤣
But its always been fun and I never thought I'd be having fun in my late 40s having been single for so long.
Enjoy it. On your terms.