This is a question for men since my (female) friends are unable to answer this. How common is it for men to struggle to have an erection with a new partner?
I was sexually very active in my twenties but never experienced a partner who would have struggled to get hard. I've now hit a period in life in my late thirties where I'm having new partners again. So far my experience has been the same. There's been only one man who was struggling to have an erection and turned out it was because he hadn't found me attractive (why bother I ask?).
Now I have a new partner and the first time I slept with him he massively struggled to get and maintain an erection. He seems super keen and is all superlatives about how attractive he finds me and how great the sex was. I'm struggling to believe him but maybe I just really don't understand male erection. He said it was down to anxiety around performing. My very recent ex is his friends boss, we're colleagues and he said he had been fantasising about our first time for months. So is that the problem with the erection can happen without warning even when things afe going well and you're feeling really aroused? And can I do anything to help. I just told him not to worry about it and to just take it as it comes and enjoy it. Which he seemed to be doing erection or not. I think it's just my own insecurities whispering Is it me?