Weekend away

[Wellthatwasashock]

I'm going away with my fairly new bf who is very vanilla and pretty inexperienced (as am I) we both want to try new things but neither of us are really sure where to start, I've got more ideas than him but don't want to go too full on too soon and scare him off.

I've got some massage oil, some stuff for a nice shower together as he's recently discovered that he likes that, was going to get some decent lube for a special hand job and wear some nice lingerie. Wine and candles.

Would like to try sex toys together - am I best off getting something like a bullet to use together? Never used one with someone else before.

Any other non threatening ideas to get things going??

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Careful with the candles in a hotel room.

Could be awkward to be evacuated in full basque, stockings and heels followed out by your tumescent, lube covered bf muttering apologies through his ball gag.

It all sounds lovely op. How about a soft blindfold of some sort, tie wrists gently with the bathrobe cord? Bullet is great idea or something a little larger like a simple rabbit? Also, if you're going to emerge for dinner or going out at some point, make a big deal of what you'll be wearing (or won't be wearing) underneath your clothes and use that as part of building a bit of extra tension.

Literally snorted on my morning coffee 🤣🤣 mostly because my Ex husband once got set on fire in an accident and it was very similar to the scenario you describe!! (Luckily wasn't my fault/candle and he wasn't hurt and many years later I find it hilarious)

Thank you for the ideas. We are going kind of glamping so won't be going out really as it's in the back end of nowhere, hence I thought a nice night in might be the way forward. There's also an outside bath if it's warm enough where I was going to use the candle but I hadn't actually thought of fire hazards - ha!

Probably a really silly q but how do you use a rabbit together?! I always envisaged using the bullet on me while he was inside thus leaving no room for a rabbit too?! I'm so not clued up on all this...

I'm not sure how I feel about blindfold and tying up, after an Abusive relationship I feel a bit weird about giving up control like that but it's a good one to raise in convo with him - talking about this stuff is another big aim of mine this weekend, and to get him to think of some things so it'd be interesting to see how he feels about it.

Thanks!

Rabbit: men are visual creatures also you might find that you like to use it on yourself lying on the bed while he kneels up by your head for example. Works for us!

If DH and I are using a vibrator together we vary between him watching me and masterbating (sometimes over my breasts or vagina). Me giving him a blowjob as he uses the vibrator on me or he brings me to climax using the vibrator as he licks my clit and/or anus.

I'm not sure how I feel about blindfold and tying up, after an Abusive relationship I feel a bit weird about giving up control like that

You can use them on him you know .

I'd suggest a browse of Lovehoney.com - lots and lots of ideas to be had!

Thanks everyone. Every day is a school day!!! Can't wait for my weekend away...

Sounds fantastic! You have a lucky BF. What kind of glamping is it? The outside bath sounds marvelous.

It does doesn't it Secretsqirrel .

@Wellthatwasashock don't suppose you feel like PMing the location ? Is it a Shepherds Hut ?

Have a lovely time wherever it is ,just relax and enjoy being together .

Shagging in a hot soapy outside bath.

"Could be awkward to be evacuated in full basque, stockings and heels followed out by your tumescent, lube covered bf muttering apologies through his ball gag." PML

Sounds like a lovely weekend, take it slowly Id say maybe just one or two new things, there's plenty of time to explore all the lovely stuff together and the more intimacy you get the more comfortable and open you'll feel :)

OP, l think there is a danger of overthinking these things rather than just going with the flow.

Personally, l wouldn’t suggest the introduction of any toys which you have not discovered solo first.

Have a lovely time .

I agree with Starlightlady - going from inexperienced/vanilla to sex toys is a bit of a leap. Everything else you have mentioned sounds great. The special hand job sounds terrific and will get you some superb return favours

Perhaps tea-lights in a safe non-tilt holder rather than candles would be best. Sexy underwear for men doesn’t usually work but perhaps some lounge pants/joggers or boxers for him?

@Wellthatwasashock have just found this thread and wondered how the he weekend went?

If you are tying up, please make sure you have safe scissors within reach for quick release in case of not feeling ok. I love restraint but I have to know I can get out/ can be released quickly if needed. It's a key aspect of safe bdsm.