Fabswingers - advice please

[heartlikepaper]

hey all
just looking for advice from people who have used the site to meet people rather than the parties as there is none at the moment.
Im a single woman, new to the NSA scene - what should I look out for, any advice to get the best out of it in a safe way.

Remember that there is real life single and Fab single...most men claim to be single but arent.

You dont need to reply to every message, you can just delete.

Always meet for a social first, just because you have a rapport in messages doesnt mean it will equate to real life.

Never go to someones house or let them come to yours without meeting them first and always let someone know where you are at all times.

Never be forced into something you dont want to do.

I loved Fabswingers, it's so refreshing to admit to loving sex and only wanting casual sex partners.

@heartlikepaper
Not many people are meeting because of covid - that's the first decision you'll have to make!

@SortingItOut has some good suggestions, particularly "Never be forced into something you don't want to do.". I'd add: -

Set your filters, (although you will still be inundated with unwanted emails ) be clear on your profile what you are looking for, and what you don't want. You can hide your profile from everyone, and have a look around - that might be a good way to start.

Take part in the forums, as you can build up a network of contacts that way.

Have a look at Killing Kittens as well, as it's a female led site. There are also other swinging type sites around.

However, if you are looking for a NSA / casual relationship, the normal dating sites can be fertile ground. Just spell it out on your profile..

Whatever you do, I'm sure that you will be spoilt for choice!

Have fun!

thanks guys, i wont be meeting anyone iin person for a while defo so i guess its safe enough that way. maybe some phone stuff to ease me in for starters 😁
and yes i should be very clear about what Im looking for and what Im not thanks for that @AverageGuy

@heartlikepaper - No worries. Always glad to help!

Feel free to PM me your Fab name - I'd be very happy to give feedback on your profile! (just kidding - honest!)

Or if you want a female perspective (from someone who meets men) PM me your fab name

Not sure how it works in American. I'm on Fab Swingers. I've met some really lovely people. I'm looking for friendship as much as sex so I'm a little different to most of the guys on there. Also I'm genuinely single too.

Set your filters and take no s... it can be as scary as hell on there but there are some lovely people. Finding them is the hard bit lol.

It is scary as hell
I want to make it work for me though, meet nice people have a laugh not just a wham bam scenario. I will persevere. Good to get the votes of confidence in it from you guys, as well as the sensible advice :)

i think you would fair better on a better quality dating site even though you may not be seeking a LTR. FAB is crammed full of fake profiles, closet bisexuals and an assortment of other dubious types.

yeah i was wondering about that @Arnoldthecat, bumble maybe. but id have to sell myself a different way and jump through all the hoops. i was thinking id reel them in with sexy body shots and then vet them🤣🤣. maybe not the best tactic🤔🤔

Hello !! Female Fab user here.

It took me a long time to get my head round the site, and to find what I was looking for but the don't take it too seriously and don't let it take over your life.

You will get bombarded with messages so I would keep things classy and your text short and sweet to start with whilst you're getting a feel for things. Have a look at other women's profiles to get ideas of what you like and what you don't.

I've met some truly lovely people (one of them has commented on this thread actually 😊) but there are a lot of time wasters and cheap thrill seekers, as there are with all the sites.

@itsureis thanks for your reply and tips, im weeding out a lot of messengers at the moment, and hopefully going to meet some of the nicer lads out somewhere for a walk or something before anything else. it is mad alright though... love your little blush emoji there, what WERE you remembering😉 X

I agree with PPs. I've used Fab quite a bit. Be careful though - I last used it on March last year ... met a lovely guy for a social. 19 months later we're properly a couple - fell in love gradually over our meets. You never know what will happen!

@BatshitCrazyWoman 🥰

I'm on fab but as a couple. We have met a few other couples through there, always had a social first and they have all been lovely 😊

Update - I had loads of fun on Fab and now I'M properly in love too lol! We had our first meet 14 months ago and BOOM 😍

Well there's a movie I want to see.. Congrats and good luck!

I warned you 😂

We've been together 3 and a half years now!

Can I PM you @BatshitCrazyWoman ??

We were on there, well I was as I did the uploads etc and chats Mrs Approve the pics and the potential meets.
We never met anyone because as we sought more details they became cagey.

Most pretended to be single were not and others I felt pretend to have a partner but did not.

We never did face pics but quite a few pics of us and my OH, but never face pics.

We did like two guys, both were up north, both were prepared to travel but we did not want them at our place or hotel as most suggested as that sounded sleazy.

We were looking to meet and then ease our way in if we both felt comfy in to chating no clothing etc and see how it went.

IMO, too many contacts you with one lines, one word and all are ready to come over.

I have read stories there where people do meet up.

We were verified via cam chat/etc by one bloke and he was one of the two up north

The men massively outnumber ladies but quite a few couples there but I/we were just looking at single blokes aged about 30/55 who were nice/pleasant etc.

If we were to go and see someone or allow someone to come to ours we'd want to see evidence of their address etc and that's where many fell short.

It is a decent site if you are genuine and know stuff about keeping safe, safe meets/chats etc.

Currently, we are looking to have a short friday/sat/sunday 2/3 day break in kent in an Airbnb house/private room where the host, or couple were clothing optional but nonthing around other than clubs and my wife is too shy to do tht just yet as she feels she is "old" but IMO looks really good especialyl for her age.

PS - reading recent posts you can meet decent people!

Btw, I made good mates with another bloke where his wife was shy as well - I told them re beach, a naturist one they went there and never looked back and then built up on that via swinging etc. As a couple we were not compatible for a for anyhting other than caht and a drink.

Yes, of course 🙂

You seem to be putting a lot of barriers up. Fab from my experience is far easier than that.

"barriers" no friend just being very sensible and safe.
The number of crap contacts, the begging, bs and more we/I just banned their contacts.
As per post we did like two guys but both up north prepared to travel but we did not want them at our place.
Then there were several pretend couples just single guys, yes i found out as their women could new even say a simple "hi" on the phone.

I have been on there for about the last 6 months and a few years ago.
The quality and genuineness of people does seem to have deteriorated and it has been challenging to even arrange meets .
I have met a few people and there is quite a big social scene in my area (Scotland) which in some ways is a good way to meet people . They are very friendly and it’s nice to be with like minded people .
it depends on what you are looking for .
personally I like the social side as well and always insist on social meets first .
i realise this original thread is over 2 years old

IMHO, Covid had a definite effect on the, er, quality (? ) of people on the site. There seems to have been a huge influx in "single" guys (like there weren't enough already...), most of whom assume that it's a site for casual sex, rather than a swingers site...

Also, it feels like lots of people currently on the site seem to be fantasists and dreamers, and as @Explorer233 says, finding someone A) genuine and B) willing to meet for (at least) a social is progressively getting harder…

The social side is good here in the South East. I'm aware of at least two groups that have social meets every month.