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It's been far too long. I love sex, I need it. But...

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OpenWide · 27/10/2020 07:18

...with someone in particular. I just want to shag the living daylights out of him. He's chronically shy and awkward and I can tell he's in need of the release but doesn't have the nerve to ask outright. He is not taken either. We are friends. How do I approach this? Concerned FWB scenario would ruin things as we are fond of one another, but he really turns me on!
Advice greatly appreciated.

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Crystal87 · 27/10/2020 07:32

I'd find out if he fancies you before you do anything that might jeopardize the friendship if it doesn't work out. Not everyone wants a FWB either, he might be looking for a relationship.

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OpenWide · 27/10/2020 10:34

@Crystal87 That's true. I don't think he wants a fwb. Neither do I really. I do need sex, however.

I do think that he fancies me, just not enough to do anything about it. There's so much I love about him and want to do...

I can let go and I do plan on letting go, which I am already very gradually. I'm not even sure anymore whether or not it's healthy to continue a friendship if I can't have him.

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Crystal87 · 27/10/2020 11:32

There's other places to look for sex if it's purely about the sex, but if you feel strongly about this guy and he fancies you, then you should go for it. Tell him you like him, life is too short.

PunkStrumpet · 27/10/2020 11:41

Is he older or younger than you? I only ask as he might be feeling intimidated by your experience?

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OpenWide · 27/10/2020 11:47

@PunkStrumpet Older, but far less experienced it seems.

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schmalex · 27/10/2020 12:19

Tell him you like him! What have you got to lose?

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OpenWide · 27/10/2020 16:26

@schmalex I've already told him. But timing was out. We agreed we wanted to stay friends. I now get the feeling he's interested but too shy/awkward/proud to do anything. Also Covid.

I really want him.

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Crystal87 · 27/10/2020 17:22

What did he say to you?

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OpenWide · 27/10/2020 18:32

@Crystal87 I don't really want to talk about it anymore. I've broken my own heart.

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OpenWide · 27/10/2020 18:33

I'm in so much pain because I love him. That is all.

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WithLotsOfSprinkles0 · 28/10/2020 22:58

Go up to him and say lets stay friends I agree but I just need to get something out of my system first....then grab him and kiss him, like proper kiss him so he gets hard then ok let's be friends now and walk away Grin

MrsWhites · 29/10/2020 14:30

If you feel that strongly about him OP you would be doing yourself a disservice if you don’t tell him how you feel! And don’t get involved in a FWB with someone who you have real feelings for - that’s a disaster waiting to happen!

Opentooffers · 29/10/2020 23:40

He knows, he hasn't wanted to progress things given that knowledge, so I'd say he's not up for that with you. If this is the case, you really should not be friends with him as it's just going to drive you mad, which it is doing.
You should tell him that you can't be friends with him because you want more than that. If he is a good man he should understand and let you go, so you can get over him. If he has indeed changed his mind, he will offer more than friendship. If he still just wants to be friends despite your feelings, he's not a good person, does not have your back and is just massaging his own ego. Whichever way it falls, you have the answer, just by saying you can't be friends anymore.

famousforwrongreason · 30/10/2020 01:48

@WithLotsOfSprinkles0

Go up to him and say lets stay friends I agree but I just need to get something out of my system first....then grab him and kiss him, like proper kiss him so he gets hard then ok let's be friends now and walk away Grin
Sounds a bit rapey... I would just say something, doesn't sound like you're kids, no matter how inexperienced you believe him to be, if he's not gay or asexual he will know how to respond to someone he's attracted to. Alan partridge quote should do it 'do you like me, sexwise?'
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OpenWide · 30/10/2020 05:38

@Opentooffers I sense he knows how I feel, is attracted to me, knows I'm a tortured soul and is using me for kicks/an ego boost. Just to also sensing that he's not asexual, but rather a man who pays for cam sex, etc...

I don't mean to sound as if I'm full of myself, but I know that I'm really quite attractive, especially for my age. I'm also kinky and a bit of a submissive. He's been using this to his advantage, now I realise. He knows I have a good heart. C#unt. I feel used.

@MrsWhites Not even sure I want to stay in contact now. If he wants me, he wants me. Not interested in just being mates. He's not interested in loving women - and I dont mean in terms of sexuality. He's only interested in women who live up to the mainstream gender role expectations.

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OpenWide · 30/10/2020 05:52

It would seem there's a fine line between love and hate.

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OpenWide · 30/10/2020 06:01

Also, he comes with his own set of problems. Anxiety, etc. Indecision is a decision, right? Or is it.

And besides this, I dont feel we're wanting the same things. He's wanting a wifey. And I'm not that kind of woman.

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