man coming out as bi to new female partner

[j712adrian]

...... that’s just the simple question. Had various non-penetrative experiences with guys since my 20s as a student in downtime between relationships. Occasionally bump into guys I fancy but I would say I’m 90% hetero.

I’m quite happy with myself and do share the info with friends. But how would you feel if a male partner shared that with you?

Horrified, no reaction. mildly turned on or any other reaction inbetween? Any particular reason why?

All advice welcomed.

I bet most men have had their penis in a woman’s arse at some time or another 🤣. And not all gay/bi men top so unless you ask every boyfriend exactly where their penis has been you won’t know

I wouldn't care TBH. I can't really see a difference between having male or female ex's.

Wow I'm astonished at the gay sex is gross thing. Seriously?

Wow, when did it become necessary for everyone to have the same opinion? No one is saying that bisexual people can’t have a relationship with a man or woman, but some people will be happy to date someone that is bi and others won’t. Different strokes for different folks - what is wrong with that?

I’m personally 100% fine with seeing men kiss men, happy for them to have relationships and believe love is love and all that. However, I personally would not want to date someone that has had relationships with other men and that is ok - more bisexual men to go around those that are looking for this!

I dont mean you cant have preferences on whom you date. But this got into I dont want to date a guy who is gay because where his penis has been. That's just never occurred to me. If someone washes what's the big deal. At some point more or less every thing has been everywhere. S6nd I dont mean sexually, I mean we step into and touch muck everywhere, then we wash.

Sorry op. This isn't even relevant to your circumstances.

@lasttimeround i agree

I feel awful and I always struggle with this situation but I know this would be a no for me. And I have no problem with gay sex. It’s just something that would turn me off.

I think it's interesting that many men find lesbians a real turn on but most women find gay men a turn off from what ive gathered

I wouldn't judge a man for it but equally I'd be grateful to know up front so i could make a gracious exit! Like a pp said I'd always feel like i couldn't give the man everything he wanted.