How to make myself want to go down?

[anxiousanimal]

Hello all.

I (F) really want to be able to go down on my partner (M) but there is just something holding me back.

I have never gone down on someone before so have 0 experience.

I want to be able to pleasure my partner but something is holding me back from doing it.

I am incredibly attracted to him and we have done everything else, it's just this one part.

Any tips? (Pun not intended)

Only do it if you really want to and, of course, if he wants you to.

You could start by just putting your cheek against it gently and kissing the shaft. That's very affectionate. Then you could move on to lightly moving your tongue around the glans.

That's enough to start off with.

Do you like whipped cream?

or something else tasty?

what is it that is actually holding you back?

does he go down on you?

It just came naturally for me from mid teens (40s now). Passion is about kissing each other bodies and it evolves from there.

Remember though, what is good for the goose is good for the gander! And the gander’s in charge.

What’s putting you off?

I use flavoured lubricants. I can’t stand the normal ‘taste’ so this helps massively.

For me I think it's the turn on of seeing how much it turns him on. Just be honest with him and say you'd love to do it and see whether it's something that interests him?

Imagine it’s a really hot day and you’re really thirsty. Now pretend it’s a Knobbly Bobbly, slightly melted.

As long as you don’t bite a chunk out of it you’re good to go.

Ask him what he likes and how to do it. If he likes oral sex, and I’ve never met a man who doesn’t, he will happily guide you.
My DH gets turned on just talking about it, he also likes to reciprocate.
Concentrate on the tip initially until you are a little more confident. If your worried about gagging remember you are in control and make it clear that you want to be able to pull away at any time.

Maybe visualise yourself doing it and try to work out what's stopping you?

I can't remember the first time I did it now but I just wanted to get intimate with him. Going very slowly and looking at his face from time to time to see how he's doing as you move around are both good. Let lots of saliva drip out if you can.

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