Would you be offended?

[Noholdingback2]

So back at the beginning of lockdown, I thought I would buy a vibrator, a blind fold and some massage oils, to try and spice up our sex life and to help me reach a orgasm, partner knew I had ordered them didn't really pass comment on them but its nothing new as we have previously used sex toys in the past but I decided to stop using them, he still brought it up and said about getting some more from time to time, so thought it would be no big deal for him.

The thing is I had to practically lay the blind fold and oils on the bed to get him to use them, even though he knew we had them and they was only used that once, he hasn't mentioned the vibrator or using it either or the oils etc.. since, I feel slightly offended and deflated about this and just wondered if any of you would too?

I think the main thing that makes me feel like this, is that I'm on antidepressants which make it harder for me to orgasm, so hence the use of sex toys etc.. to help me along the way, so I can get as much enjoyment out of sex as he does.

The key thing here is as long as the vibey works for you.

I’m not in a position to comment on the other bits. They would not be for me.

Have you had clear discussions on it. Who isnthe blindfold and oils for? He may have no idea whether he is using them on you or you on him. Good communication is key and it does appear this is lacking a bit as you just announced you were buying them and then seem to have been waiting for him to mention using them.
If you want to be blindfolded and you haven't really done stuff like that before, he may have no idea what you want him to do, if you bought it for him he may not like the idea.

I wouldn't feel offended. I'd just feel sad and lonely. :(

maybe he feels inadequate in that you, in his mind, have had to resort to a vibe and other toys to satisfy yourself.

If my wife told me she had ordered things like that I'd be waiting for the delivery. I'd want to try them and see how it all helped us both. I'd be excited that she wanted to spice things up and enjoy sex with me.

I love her so I'd love to try whatever she wants to try.

Quite frankly, it sounds pathetic.

@jessstan1

Quite frankly, it sounds pathetic.

Quite frankly, you sound pathetic.

Maybe I am but I fail to see the joy in something artificial when the real thing is available

@jessstan1

Maybe I am but I fail to see the joy in something artificial when the real thing is available

But the problem is the OP is on medication which reduces her sensitivity so she needs extra help, and those machines are v intense and help her.

And she posted on here for help. Not mean comments.

@jessstan1 What a horrible comment! 🙄

OP - you need to communicate with him, not just leave props lying around as hints. Tell him "I'd really like you to blindfold me, give me a sensual massage and then use my new vibrator on me. I want to cum for you." No ambiguity!

What is so horrible about what I said? The op can do whatever she likes regardless of anybody else's comments.

Sex toys can be fun but the novelty wears off and the real thing is better.

@jessstan1

Quite frankly, it sounds pathetic.

Quite frankly, you often come off as a twat.