Has it come yet?

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Does anyone else's man monitor their periods. I am pissed off with this dude keep asking me "oh has your thing come or oh its around this time it normally comes or oh is it gonna be OK to have sex when I come"i am fing sick of this man monitoring everything and when I get mad he says I'm ignorant. What about oh let us go out and have some nice food take a walk, talk and generally enjoy each others company. Just wants to get into my pants makes me feel so unworthy

Ditch him!

Yip, ditch him.

I have a good idea of DW's cycle and tend to have a good idea of when she is due, only gets mention if Im going shopping though. This guy sounds a bit suspect to me, seems very controlling.

We live in very strange times, when it seems visits to galleries and even the pub need to be pre-booked. What bothers me here is that the OP’s partner seems to have the need to pre-book sex.

It’s nice to have some “period respect” in terms of you might be feeling rubbish etc, but everything here goes way too far.

Thanks all replies. I need to really get this man out of my life!!! It's so draining

Dump him

Vile. Dump. You’re a wank sock to him. You deserve better.

He sees you as a life support system for a vagina and nothing more. Bin him off and find someone that values you as a person.

If only because he calls it your "thing"

Thank u all. He actually apologised for his continuous comment when I told him I was fed up of him asking me. I said it's like u only want to see me to sleep with me. He said that's not the case and apologised. Hmm ain't buying it tbh 🤬

Same thread.... Different issue :

When will I learn so here is the latest list of objectives from him:

1. I have no other faulta
2. Sex is a big problem
3. He wants me to better myself
4. I need to give him what he wanta
5. I'm making some progress by buying thongs
6. Example...

If I don't give him what he wants thats why "men" (apologies to the men reading this) cheat.

If I don't get this man out of my life he will drag me down. The though of him calling me or texting me to "call him" my anxiety goes through the roof!!!

😔

Send him a text dumping him. Why do you want to be with this loser?

Only when we were ttc as everything got a bit like a project. Other times not so much

Ugh this sounds horrible. Get rid of him ASAP.

Send him a definitive text message.

Too many chances for this man. His words hurt and his attitude stinks. And yet he always turns it back on me. Thanks all replies

Why are you still with him? He's clearly not making you happy. Find someone who does.

PinotPony, I agree with you up until the bit where you say that he is clearly making her unhappy. I don't want to get involved with the semantics of psychology, but as soon as we say to a person 'you make me happy' we give them the power to also make us unhappy, and that is not a healthy place to be.

We are all responsible for our own happiness in any situation. If the OP is unhappy being in a relationship with this creature, then her unhappiness stems solely from her inability to immediately terminate things. That, as you say, needs to be rectified.

None of us needs anyone, or anything, to be happy and once we grasp that concept we can enter into relationships without making our inner peace dependent on someone else.

I learned this lesson some while ago - I am happy with my life partner, but she does not make me happy.

I am in no way having a go at you; instead I am suggesting a way of looking at life that might make us a bit more resilient (and ultimately happier).

Thanks all posts much appreciated. He has to go and I need to move on x