Me and DP always had a great sex life then DD1 was born, obviously not as much but still great. Then when I got pregnant with DD2 we had to stop after around 34 weeks as pelvic girdle made it too painful for me, DD2 was also a csection and I had a rough ride healing so we waited the full 6 weeks to start up again. With 2 young children we wasn’t as regular as before but I think that should be expected, not as much as either of us would like but we just struggled to find the time. Moving into mils house while we renovated didn’t make this any easier.
Around 6 months ago Now back in our own home I was getting strange vibes off DP I knew something was wrong so I did the dreaded thing and checked his phone. I found that he’d been on fab and also paying for onlyfans of local girls that we both know. His browser history didn’t show that he’d messaged anyone on fab but he’d had a good look. I confronted him and he said it’s because we don’t have enough sex and he was just curious. He’s assured me it won’t happen again but since I have gone on to find him paying for more onlyfans. We have sex probably 3 times a month which isn’t enough for either of us, I’d like to have sex more but I don’t feel confident around him anymore. My body’s changed since having children, my csection has destroyed my stomach my confidence has never been so low and I know that this isn’t DPs fault but he hasn’t exactly helped. I created a fake account on fab to see what he was looking at and none of them looked a thing like me. How can I move past this? I want our sex life to improve but I know for this to happen I need to move past this. His do I do it? Has anyone been through similar?