Does anyone know anything about this...

[malloryknox23]

Long time poster here. NC for obvious reasons. Need some advice and can't talk to anyone IRL...again for obvious reasons.

It's become clear recently that my dp has a sexual kink that he's into. He kept it secret for a while because I think he'd think I would find it weird. But I found out a few months ago via search history and since then we've been tentatively speaking about it more.

It's sploshing so basically getting messy with food. Head dunking in custard and frolicking about with cakes and cream and stuff like that. I don't get it at all. To me it seems quite infantile but it clearly does something for him. I'm not disgusted by it I just don't really understand the sexual side. The people doing it look ridiculous.

But I'm open minded. If he wants to try it with me (he's not suggested this yet) then I wouldn't be against it. I would just like to understand a bit more first. Does anyone else do this sort of stuff? Why? And how can you do it without destroying your carpets in the process

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I don't know anything about sploshing, other than what Google tells me, but it is a fetish and they are all pretty much the same when in a relationship. By that I mean it's all about give and take: some times when we go to the cinema we see a film my partner likes, other times it's one I want to see, or it can be something we both want to watch. Sex is no different if one person has a fetish.

Since sex is principally about giving your partner pleasure (if it wasn't, we'd simply masturbate), then if it does not harm you physically, or mentally, then why not occasionally indulge them in their fetish fantasy and take them to a special place?

If you can facilitate his fun, then he will be more inclined to keep his own side of the street clean and look after you. Buy a rubber sheet and get down and dirty. It could be a lot of fun; even the clean up shower might turn out to be very enjoyable.

It doesn't have to be something you do every time you have sex; if you did do it all the time, it would lose a lot of its appeal. Whatever you end up doing about it, don't judge him for being this way.

@xpc316e Thank you for replying. I must admit I was shocked when I found out and also quite hurt that he hadn't felt able to talk to me about it before but I didn't judge. I don't get it personally but I am open minded and willing to try new things.

Practically I don't know how it would work. Not sure a rubber sheet would be enough. Might be better to restrict it to a tiled area of the house lol. I worry that I would feel too ridiculous to find it sexy. Which is why I guess I'm trying to figure out about the appeal from other like minded people.

Regardless I am willing to try if it's what he wants and would make him happy.

malloryKnox23, it sounds to me as though you have played this situation pretty much as it ought to be.

I suppose that as fetishes go, it is perhaps more left field than most and one can see why he might be reluctant to be absolutely open about his desires. He has now told you about it and your reaction should be enough to promote more openness in future. It's a lot easier to talk about such personal matters when you can be sure that nobody is either going to mock you, or be angry about something they do not quite understand.

As tough as it might be for you, you have to overcome the idea that you could find sploshing ridiculous. For me, there is a chance that finding his fetish ridiculous tends to infer that you find him ridiculous. Remember that his fetish is part of him. By all means find that it doesn't work for you, because you simply don't find it sexy, but be wary of saying something about his fetish that you may later regret.

Hopefully, his reaction to your agreeing to at least give it a try will make you quickly forget any ideas that it is ridiculous. As you say, restricting the action to a tiled area of the house may be a good idea to start with.

I wish you all the best and hope you can find some middle ground that at least makes it rewarding enough for you to experience his reaction, even if it does not exactly float your personal boat.

Thank you again @xpc316e you talk a lot of sense!

I will be careful with my choice of words. I would never refer to it as ridiculous in front of him. I just can't see myself getting in the mood doing it, id be more likely to laugh

I have been supportive and open minded. I think I will have to leave the ball in his court now. I know some people don't like to mix their real lives with fantasy so maybe it's not even something he'd like to do with me. But we will see...

A paddling pool (the inflatable kind) to contain the mess with a plastic sheet underneath and a few towels.

You could try with a few dozen pints of jelly to start. It tastes good, isn’t too sticky or messy and not as far out there are cream cakes or custard (but a similar sensation). On a practical note - sugar free version in case it ends up places it really shouldn’t... less likely to cause any irritating side effects.

Sorry, but no. He kept it secret, you found out by accident and find it ridiculous (fair enough) and now you're getting advised to go along with it to keep him happy. All kinds of wrong! Sex should be mutually enjoyable NOT putting up with stuff!

And it is ridiculous! Why should you have to pretend otherwise?