Where can me and my very long-term male partner go to find non-seedy sex partners on the side?
We opened up our relationship last year, after 20-odd years together, but so far only I (female) have had lovely no-strings sex. It was perfect and liberating and enough juju to remind me of all the good stuff I have at home - if you see what I mean? I needed something different and I got it, massively! But there was not a risk that it would get more serious because this guy, though very well endowed, would never match my partner for intellectual stimulation. It was seriously perfect and satisfied all my monogamous frustration. My partner knew about it, although there are aspects he doesn't know about and I still fantasize about. He is totally non-jealous/possessive. I'm not, but I'm willing to learn.
I want my partner to experience this. He has only been with me and one other woman but he has so much to give and we only have one life. There must be a woman out there who wants to be fucked, beautifully, with no or at the most few strings attached (I get that even with a fuck buddy there might be some feelings but I don't want it to ultimately challenge my relationship. Happy for it to have a place in our life). I want to find an egalitarian place where people can agree to have sex with both of them expecting pleasure and attention and yet for it to be purely about the sex, no other expectations.
I find it easy to find alternative sexual partners because I'm a woman and pretty happy to predate, but my partner never does that - he's just not that kind of man. But he has a lot of sexual energy which I would enjoy seeing him spend on someone else. I know there are risks but we have weighed them and I think we would be ok.
Is there such a place to find non-seedy sexual transactions??
Help!