Sex after divorce

[littlebitotartan]

Simply put, is it just strange having been with the same
Partner for many many years.
I'm Lacking in confidence in my
Body but come Across as very confident . I'm wobbly generally. I have a Fake it till you make it attitude.
Any tips for boosting confidence when naked.

I felt the same way after I split up with my ex. I met a few ladies and found it difficult. I met a few who accepted me as I was and then I met the lady who is not my wife. Suddenly it all seemed perfect, I was not worried about how I looked or acted. She hated my long hair and beard so I shaved and got my hair cut 18 years later it still seems perfect. When you meet the right person you will stop worrying.

I was worried about this too. Until I met DP.

I'm a size 12 but have scars and a shelf from two c sections, plus stretch marks and saggy tits from breastfeeding.

DP loves me for all of these things. It's about finding the right person. Although I do admit it was scary getting naked in front of him at first, now I know how he feels about me and my body it's given me so much more confidence.

I was bricking it the first time with my now bf, after over twenty years with now ex husband. Good communication, taking time, being patient and not taking things too seriously all really helped us both relax.

Thanks pps. I'm
Getting
Nervous. What if he is repulsed by my body. All else is going really well but this is overshadowing the excitement of our first time

If he's repulsed by your body then he's not worth your time, energy or emotion.

He won’t be repulsed - what Glow said. But a good ‘un will likely be as nervous as you as he will want it to be great for both of you. And don’t get too hung up on the first time being the be all and end all. It will get better over time as you both relax more.

littlebitotartan - I was about 8 months between splitting with my ex, and like you was rather nervous.
The lady I met was also more than nervous, both of us worried about how we look and performance on the night.
I think because we talked, we knew what to expect. We booked a hotel overnight to get peace from home life / kids / housemate, I think we both also planned and prepared ahead so we were in anticipation.
In fact we shouldn't have worried, I was rock hard from the moment we kissed in the hotel car park until the next morning, she really wanted things, we both laughed, worked out how it went again, both thought each other sexy, scars, wobbly bits and all. In fact I think we both enjoyed the fact it wasn't perfect, so rounds two, three and more were more comfortable to guide each other.
Both of us commented how easy it was to walk naked around the room, something she wouldn't have done at home, and same with me. I think attitude and mood are more important than anything, and curves are sexy to us men.
It didn't last, but it gave both of us a huge boost.

Thais for the reassurance.lovely stories to read and take from

A friend of mine gave me a great tip when I was considering dating again after my divorce. It was about 2 years after my divorce.
When you are home alone just walk around your own home naked - maybe after a shower just go into your bedroom close curtains etc and just walk around naked for a bit. I found getting used to doing this when I knew no one could see - actually gave me more confidence when it actually came to getting naked in front of a man again.
Also get some new attractive under wear. After a long marriage my undies draw had started to resemble an old ladies jumble sale so invest in some nice new undies - this is for your confidence not for any other reason so choose what YOU like. :)

After a few false starts I'm now in a new relationship with a guy I met on-line. Good Luck.