He doesn't trust BC

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Hi, I'd like some advice please. My boyfriend and I have a good relationship, the sex is good, but the ending is disappointing. I'm on birth control and we use condoms due to his anxiety of pregnancy. I'm all good with that, except his anxiety is so severe he doesn't trust any forms of bc and pulls out waaayyyy before he's ready to finish. I'd love for him to finish inside me (in the condom of course), but he refuses saying I'll get pregnant

I miss the excitement and intimacy of a man pulling me closer as he's cumming, and the sensation of the pulsing.
I do feel like he is being a bit over the top as we have double the protection, but I don't know what to say or do to ease his fears. Any suggestions?

I wonder which method of birth control you are using. The combined oral contraceptive pill alone, or the condom alone, would not be very reliable. As you imply, using both as double protection should be pretty reliable, but for some reason he is still worried about pregnancy.
Has he, or a friend, had a pregnancy scare in the past and it’s made him extra careful? Or maybe he has heard of women not taking the pill reliably? You have probably already explored these areas with him.
If you are on pill, would it be possible to consider long acting reversible contraception, e.g. the Mirena coil, or an implant? Perhaps he would be less worried about an unwanted pregnancy if he knew how reliable these methods were? Would he perhaps attend a doctors or family planning clinic appointment with you to discuss his concerns?
Wishing you both all the best in finding a way forward.

I slept with someone like this. I hated it. Nothing would change his mind as he was a stubborn old git.

I now sleep with someone that has no problems finishing inside me while using a condom. Which is the only form of birth control I use.

If used properly, both condoms and the pill are astonishingly effective. If used together the chances of getting pregnant must be so low as to be not worth mentioning.

Check out the NHS website for details of how effective the various methods are:
www.nhs.uk/conditions/contraception/how-effective-contraception/

If he's really that worried tell him to get the snip

I'm on the implant and have already provided him with the information that it's just as effective as sterilisation etc. I've asked if me using a different form would help and he says I can use whatever I want, it's just the condoms he doesn't trust. It makes no sense.
There's not been anyone in his life who's had a pregnancy scare, either. Regarding having the snip, he'd most likely still be the same!
@Snowyowl1234 I'm due to have my implant removed in a couple of months, so I'll ask him to come along and encourage him to talk to the doctor about his concerns. Hopefully hearing from a professional would help a bit.