Will coming off the pill save my libido?

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Have been on the pill for at least 16 years now, and particularly over the last 8 years my libido has completely dwindled to dust.

I no longer feel desire, or lust, or even desirable, come to think of it. I have regular sex with DH 2-3 times a week but only because in a very abstract, remote sense I know that I want to try and maintain our sex life. There is no desire there and I hate the fact that I'm simply going through the motions or that my DH will sense that I'm an unenthusiastic partner. I want to want to have sex, if that makes sense, it just isn't backed up by the physical response.

Once I've climaxed then I generally feel more in the mood, but literally right up to the last second I could take it or leave it.

I miss feeling desire and passion. I miss feeling an innate, primal urge to share myself with another human being. I can't bear to think of it just going through the motions for the rest of my life.

I love my DH and I find him attractive. It's not that. The only thing I can think is that I've often heard that the pill affects libido. Has anyone on here switched to a different contraceptive method and found their sex drive improves?

I need to do something. I'm fed up of feeling so...tepid.

Probably yes.

Reduce the frequency and you might miss it. Talk to your husband about it and show him that you want to build some tension. Tease him and make him wait for it.

If you come off the pill after taking it for so long it’ll probably have some noticeable effect. Maybe the increased pregnancy risk will do something for you.

I hadn't realised how much the pill had been affecting my libido, until I stopped taking it.

I didn't think there was an issue before... but within a couple of months of no pill, DH delightedly asked what had gotten into me 😂 It's the only big change I can think of. Makes sense though, and worth a try OP.

My libido was absolutely destroyed by the pill.
I came off it, went with non hormonal contraception and I have never looked back.
I feel alive again
My whole mood lifted within weeks, and my partner absolutely loves it!

Pill definitely killed my sex drive. I would do anything to get out of sex. Came off it, fell pregnant (very much planned) straight away, had our child, never gone back on it and I've had sex twice today! This was not me a year ago! So glad I've got rid.

This is me too! Been on it about 15 years and the last couple I’ve just been so uninterested in sex and I really feel for DP.
I’m intrigued to come off it but we’re really not ready for a baby so getting pregnant terrifies me a little bit!

Not exactly the same but I started taking the mini pill a few months back for about 5 or so months and my sex drive disappeared, everytime my partner came near me I was like nah not tonight 🤣 stopped taking it and i realised just how much it was affecting me.
I think you'll notice a definite change.

Talk to your husband and see if he will try a sex “fast” for say two weeks. That will let you see if the urge comes back naturally.

Going ON the pill sent my libido through the roof. Also have me a 3 month period (3 month prescription)

I enjoyed the increased libido but stopped taking it after the 3 month prescription.

An update for anyone who is interested!

I've been off the pill for approximately three weeks now...

...and I can't get my mind off sex. I am completely consumed by it. These past three days I've been almost terrified of walking out the door in search of more of it! I fantasise constantly about sex with strangers, sex with people on TV, sex with ex boyfriends.... anyone.

I'm thrilled and almost frightened in equal measures.

Early days but so far so good... just need to exercise some self-control now. I've never had any need for restraint before!

It’ll settle to manageable desires. Hopefully with your DP. He will want to cum in you though. So remember to make him get off before the terminus, i.e. a stop early.