How to tighten loose vagina

[bluttle]

Since the birth of my son in 2018 via forceps, I've not had a lot of sensation when having sex. Ive asked my husband to try difference positions like doggy style as I can feel that more but he doesn't like that and loses his erection. So I'm left not enjoying sex. We're trying for another baby as well so it's not like it's few and far between we're having to do it.

I also have a grade 1 prolapse which I don't know if it has anything to do with it.

Anyone advise what I can do to tighten things up? I know about pelvic floors but do they actually help anything?

Exercises can help for many people but have you spoken to a dr about this? They can refer you to a physio who specialises in this area.

You could start by downloading the NHS Squeezy app. There are full instructions (squeeze rectally as well not just vaginally) and you can set it for a 5 second squeeze with 2 seconds rest in between and start off at 3 x sessions a day. It will prompt you to do the exercises so you don’t forget. There will be a waiting list for a physio so no harm in starting exercises yourself before you get to speak to one if you choose to go down that route.

Some info here by a marvellous woman passionate about preventing problems.
www.gussetgrippers.co.uk/experience

I'm currently using an I touch sure electronic pelvic floor trainer I bought from amazon, its helping with stress incontinence a bit and I think I'm feeling more during sex.
I have had two vaginal births one a very big baby so havent felt the same since. Have you asked your hubby if it feels different after having a baby? I wonder if it's no different or not to men and maybe we notice it more

Yes he said he does struggle to feel sensation in some positions. The one he can feel something in is me on top, which I don't like so much.

Do pelvic floors work to tighten things up?

Well I've just ordered these from amazon after reading the glowing reviews. Fingers crossed.

Deluxe Kegel Weighted Exercise Balls - Pelvic Floor Tightening & Strengthen Bladder Control – Prevent Prolapse – Set of 6 for Beginners to Advanced with Free E-Book https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07K1DC468/ref=cmswwrcppapiii_uqflFbBTM5RKG

@bluttle How do you get on with being on your sides with him behind you?
That position can give you more control.

@soruff I find thats the worse position for me. I can't feel anything and can't really move much

Pelvic floor exercises every day. Not particularly fun but it does make a difference.

I’ve got the kegal weights in the Amazon link above and so far I’m impressed. I’ve had them for a couple of months and my partner has noticed a difference during sex (although he’s (kindly) never made any unappreciative comments before). I hope they improve my problem with peeing when I go jogging but no difference there yet - maybe in time. I’ve had two babies, one by forceps and then gave birth DS2 accidentally at home very quickly and he weighed 10lb - so neither experience was great for my pelvic floor! Good luck everyone, and I definitely agree that regular pelvic floor exercise is really important. My self esteem has improved a bit just from the benefits during sex

Have you seen a physio for the prolapse? Pelvic floor exercises can really help, as can an e-stim machine. But a physio will help to ensure you’re doing the exercises correctly and getting proper contractions. I have a mild prolapse (bladder and uterus) and physio really helped. Sex life is better than ever now!

My friend recommended the weights to me (she had a vaginal delivery). She said it's made sex feel way better too and she finds it easier to climax!
Maybe you could look at toys as well? Just an idea but you can get c shaped dildos that are slimmer and go inside you and on clit or down to your a. You could put it inside yourself as well as his penis maybe. Or a cock ring?

Vjuve vaginal tightening. Amazing difference for me after 3 treatments. I'd say better than before giving birth.

I’m the same had baby in 2018, never really tightened up. I can’t feel him at all now, he loses erection, changing position doesn’t help.

Our relationship is definitely over so is our sex life. I don’t think I would have given birth if I knew I wouldn’t enjoy sex again or be able to use tampons. It’s a lot to deal with when your in your 20s and we’re so full of life before get pregnant.

I was thinking about surgery but don’t know if that will make things worse. Online reviews seem to think it’s amazing. Wish I had a section.

I am almost 9 months postpartum and I had a forceps delivery with episiotomy after pushing for 5 hours. I was really worried about being looser so I've been doing pelvic floor exercises, not regularly enough tbh cos I forget! But I'm very tight now, like before. In fact doggy is too difficult atm 😅. I would keep at it if I were you, it's like any exercise, eventually you will get results and it will be worth it. Good luck x