Ex sex addict in relatively new serious relationship

[ididntmeanit]

Hi

Just wondering if someone can guide and help me.

I'm in a relationship which I've been in for 6 months and I see it running the course 🙂

My problem is that I came out of a very long term relationship a few years ago, played the field, basically became a sex addict and then settled with a very lovely, almost perfect guy.

And the sex is great. But for me it's not enough, he only wants sex once or twice a week. We are intimate every day in some way or other, but h can only seem to manage sex once or twice a week.

He is 42and I'm 38 and I'm perfectly aware that I am experiencing the "sex surge"

I just really could do with some perspective as I am very aware that I'm lucky to have a good guy who wants to be intimate with me all the time but doesn't necessarily want to fuck me ...but with my history, I equate sex with love and belonging. My head knows this isn't right. And I genuinely Don t want to destroy his beautiful relationship with someone I love so much and who loves me so much too 🙂🙂

What do you mean by sex addict ? Lots of women like sexual daily or more , doesn't really make you an addict unless it's affecting your ability to function .

Could you try getting him to masturbate you or use toys on you on the days he doesn't want to have sex ? Or can you see yourself compromising by indulging in solo play on the other days ?
For me , it all would depend on the quality of sex you're getting that is once a week . If it's brilliant , satisfying and a great experience overall where he goes to town on pleasuring you then I'd be ok with that weekly . If it's mundane, half hearted pity sex once in a while I'd start questioning the relationship altogether .