Sex clubs as a single female

[Thedozingdonkey]

Is this frowned upon and do you always need to take a partner? I’m in my 20s and terrified but so excited at the idea of going to a sex club but I don’t know if this is a good idea to go alone?

You'll get people telling you it will be absolutely fine and that's largely true but it does also depend on where you go. The men can be a nuisance in some places. Most clubs deal with it really well and you will get well looked after but just being honest. Definitely not frowned upon. If you have a particular club in mind or area of the country i can give you my opinion of places as ive been to loads of them or you can just research them well and make sure you pick one that's right for you. When i say nuisance, i don't mean they will harass you, just that if they aren't controlled by the management a single lady can get an entourage of men with hard ons follow her everywhere she goes in the hope of getting lucky but not one of them having the guts to actually talk to her. It can get quite comical. You might be fine with that. It annoys the hell out of me when i have been on my own.

Thanks for the info - I’d be looking at the Devon area so if you know any there it’d be good to hear. WhTs the typical demographic - is it quite varied or are there specific clubs with certain age ranges?

Op,
Most clubs aren't open at the moment because of CV-19. Some are running "social only" evenings, so you might be lucky.

If you find a local-ish club, see if single ladies are allowed in on "couples only" nights. That way, you won't be bothered by the wanking dead.

As for demographic, all ages, shapes and sizes go.

Does anyone have any information of clubs in South London or towards Sussex areas. I guess there will be in Brighton.

My friend has convinced herself that she really needs to go to such a club.

More later if needed

I don't have a personal experience but I listened to a podcast where they talked about clubs. They said that a lot of places take single women and couples, but not single men. But it is worth checking with the club before going if they don't have the info available.

Hi, for Devon there really is only one club worth it's salt in my humble opinion, "Secrets" in the Totnes area. When things get back to normal, give Chris and Teresa a call, they're lovely people and will look after you.

@soruff
Quite a few clubs in that area.
Ab Fabs, Hellfire, Eurekas, to name a few. Again, the majority are currently closed, with no immediate plans to open.

I'm told that there are some private parties being organised, but that might not be what you are looking for.

If anyone wants a male point of view, feel free to pm me.

As a whole the community is very respectful and any man pestering will be removed quickly

If your friend is in West Sussex I suggest she looks up Bristol Gardsns Health Spa - its a naturist spa with playrooms. Apart from that Liberation Swingers hold parties all along the south coast.

If you're looking for female led parties, you can't go far wrong with Killing Kittens.
"Toms" have to be invited by a Kitten and accompanied at all times. So there's no single guys roaming about. It's also against the rules for Toms to approach kittens... they must ask to be introduced.

Thank you for all your suggestions for my friend, I will pass them all on to her.
I am hoping that by the time C-19 restrictions are lifted she will have found a new bf and changed her mind!

@soruff why do you hope she changes her mind?

As a single woman in your 20s, why would you want to go to a sex club with men in it? Covid aside, it was hard not to get picked up when I was that age. I get it a little more if you want to experiment with other women.

@Nantalialikes, I will be expected to go with her whatever she says about going by herself. That kind of experimenting is not for me. I am in a long and happy marriage.
Also as she hasn't had sex for two years she is starting to get desperate. Not a good attitude!
We have talked about it, neither of us has a clue what to expect though. I think she will try it. I will go with her and not make a fuss.

@notevenat20 women don't go to them because they are desperate. The single women tend to be alpha females that ooze confidence. I'm no shrinking violet but even I'm in awe at the way some of them carry themselves

@soruff prob not the place to go if you're only there as a wingwoman

@Natalialikes. Exactly so, not for me, But I am the only friend she trusts not to blab it about. We are friends. Therefore I will support her.
I will rethink my "desperate" remark.

My DH has been exchanging emails with her, he said she is more fragile than she used to be. Overeating and drinking too much.
Her marriage has lost all passion, even the affection of 30 years is wearing thin. It is more of a house share to keep a base for daughter at uni.
Since C-19 there are no work related meetings, company sponsored lunches or presentations. Had there been she would have got herself sorted and enjoyed the chase.

Your husband is emailing your mate ? About sec parties ?

@TomNook,
Yep, she raised the subject with him when they met before Lockdown at a work event. Probably during the 2nd bottle of Merlot. She was upset that the love of her life had left UK. A Company transfer.
He thought she would forget it. But it keeps recurring in her mind.
I have spoken to her. She thinks she has to try it.
Neither of us want to be involved. We have been together 40 years.

Are you happy with your husband exchanging emails with your friend about sex parties, it seems she’s taking quite a part in your lives, I don’t think you should mix friendship with sex parties, if she really wants to go then she should be willing to go by herself, not expect her friend whose happily married and not welcoming to the idea to tag along.

It’s very very odd.

This is pretty accurate in my experience. Men will rarely deliberately harass but just tend to behave a bit like zombies with dicks in their hands. As a couple, we found it comical that few of them even seemed able to converse but we're watching our every move in case we were about to touch one another in the lounge area. When we went upstairs together and started to have sex, they filed in, dicks in hand to surround the bed. One touched my partners belly and she had to take his hand away but that was the extent of boundary breaking.

We agreed afterwards that we didn't mind them watching and, as our first time having sex in front of others, it was incredibly hot for us. We zoned them out so that they were just people rather than zombie cock holders

Blimey, isn't going to a sex party much safer than picking men up in bars. You clearly haven't been to a sex party because their are rules of etiquette and conduct you just ain't going to get at a night club or bar!