Penis too large

[Abitsore]

I've recently started seeing a new man, he is lovely.

We DTD on Saturday night and omg his penis was massive, when he thrusted his penis hit my cervix and caused me pain. Obviously I told him, he tried to be more gentle and caring, he tried to pleasure me in different ways but I was already stinging so the experience wasn't the best. I still feel a bit bruised now.

I just wondered if anyone else has experience of this, will I get used to it or are there ways to ensure that I can avoid him hitting my cervix? Until this guy I have not had sex for several years, could it be that I am just not used to it anymore and will with time. I had always thought a man with a big penis would be amazing but the aching was so intense yesterday that I considered finishing with him, I really don't want to do that as he is so perfect (so far) in every other way.

Maybe you need to take it more slowly? more foreplay? or different positions?

Things may loosen up a bit and you can accommodate him?

Training required for him.

I remember commenting on MN in the oast that very large can be uncomfortable. There you have it.

He needs to slow down, ease forward, pull back, a lot of the sensations for a woman are from pulling back anyway. No pounding.

Also spend more time on receiving oral prior to entry. Lubes can help too. To conclude though, it’s how he uses it that needs to change.

I am only average in terms of cock size, but my current partner had not sex for three years before we met. I always joke that if we hadn't DTD she might have healed over, but in all honesty there was certainly a period of her adjusting to being penetrated again. Once we had got over the initial stages, there were no problems - I hope that you can eventually enjoyably accommodate your large partner.

Give it time if its been a while. You need to be fully relaxed. Take control too.

Don't tell yourself that his penis is too large or you will worry, tense up etc and it will hurt. Self fulfilling prophecy.
Make sure you're really aroused and sufficiently wet (use lube if necessary).
Get on top of him. You can experiment with depth and angles until you understand what's going to work for you.
Keep communicating and make sure that he is taking onboard what you tell him.
Have fun!

Experiment with positions .... some it will feel like he's touching your cervix and others you'll hardly feel him at all ;-)

First off, get some decent lube. My favourite is Millennium Id but experiment to find your favourite. Some men will try to shame you for using lube. Ehhh no mate. We all lubricate to a greater or lesser degree, and I'm personally on the dry side. Lube all the way.

Secondly, experiment with positions until you find one that feels good for both of you. With big dicks I usually start on top so I can control the depth and thrust while I'm warming up. Once I feel relaxed I'll then suggest we switch to doggy or mish.

Make sure you're using the appropriate size condoms. You wouldn't believe how many guys try to fit a king size cock into a regular size condom. A

Thanks for all the guidance. I definitely did tense up from the initial shock to my cervix and despite him trying different ways of pleasuring me its all I thought of throughout the whole experience, I really need to relax. I will try all your suggestions.

Def play with positions and make sure there is enough foreplay. I can’t do doggy as he goes too deep but missionary with him positioned right is amazing as he hits all the right spots.

I had the same problem when I first got together with DH. Once I relaxed it became a lot more comfortable. Try different positions too. I found me on top gave me a lot more control. Now, as far as I am concerned, bigger is most definitely better. If you'd asked me right at the beginning though, my answer would have been different.

DH is very large and I am definitely not. Some positions are just out completely even with him being very careful (I also have endometriosis which makes deep penetration painful at the best of times).

Lubricant helps a lot if you have a forth issue, even if you think you don’t need it.

He needs to be changing his angle for a start. Slightly alarming that he’s gone straight into slamming into your cervix - assuming he’s had sex before he should be well aware that his penis size can be an issue and that he needs to adapt.

Apparently, my DH's ex actually liked to pounded as hard and as deep as possible so relying on his past experience might not be the best idea!

Were you fully aroused? My DH is larger in size but our first time was good...but he made sure I was very aroused and literally begging for it. He was careful going in and I guess I stretched to accommodate.

I don't feel bruised him pressing my cervix though ...I like it

You do need to stretch to accommodate. I find if we don't have it for a little while it feels very tight below