Women's bodies

[bodyworries]

I have name changed for this as don't want it linking to other threads. What do men honestly think of older (post 40) women's bodies who have been through childbirth (think c section shelf) have bit of extra weight and spider veins etc...

I know people will come on and say oh the right guy won't care and I would agree etc but what if you are just after a bit of fun? I don't want to undress and be found to be hideous!

Any man in his 40's who thinks he looks like he did in his 20's is mental and better avoided.

The sexiest thing on a woman is her confidence in herself. If she can cope with the lumps, bumps and all that goes with living, then who the hell am I to find fault.

I don't think it's the same as comparing it to a small penis as an above poster said. I don't want a man with a 6 pack who is conventionally attractive. It's about chemistry, so a chubby guy or someone with a normal type body who's not " perfect" would still turn me on if I fancied him. A guy with a small penis might still be attractive but the fact is, for most women it's not going to be enough physically.

"I don't agree with the PP that stated "men are seriously just so grateful"."

It really matters what sort of man you want. If you want the sort who is looking for a model for a girlfriend, then that's clearly a problem. Many (most?) men want a women who is sexy in her attitude and really fancies him. For those men you don't need to look like a model and that generally makes for a happier relationship too.

I know which sort of man I prefer.

I much prefer Dad bods. Taught, toned bodies don't do it for me. I love squishy bits! I'm sure that some men find Mum bods highly sexy too.

I suppose us as women will find different types attractive. My perfect man is blue eyed, dirty blonde hair and stubble (Paul walker, Charlie hunnam) but men like them won't be interested in me (rip Paul 😔)

When it comes to real life I absolutely want the following things.

Clean (no b.o and a nice smelling deodorant or aftershave)

Hygienic as in clean teeth etc.

Funny but with a serious side. Someone who wants to talk about a huge range of things and is helpful and caring but also who can make me smile. There is nothing more attractive than someone who is funny and can laugh at themselves and cheer you up.

I also think it's important for a man to not lie, cheat and text other women in an inappropriate way. But it's fine for them to have female friends!

When it comes to looks everything is fine as long as they have a good heart! My hairs a little ginger (dark aurburn) so perhaps a red head would be a no based on the fact I find two fingers together odd 😂😂

Gingers not fingers lol

OP - as a 47 year old bloke fighting to stay fit and loose that stubborn couple of stone, I've possibly got some similar concerns as you.
Will she think I'm overweight?
What about my receding hairline?
The fact I won't join the fashion for waxed back and more as I'll look like an anaemic sell?
Those slight moobs....
Oh man...

And frankly, a mucled and toned body will just intimidate and remind me of what I was under 30...

I'm also more interested in attitude and character. You can turn me on with body and brain - and brains are better at keeping me interested... I'd rather someone shook it at me than i viewed the perfect it...

sell = seal.

Argh.

As a woman I’m more interested in the actual man than his waist size or how much chest hair he has. If the conversation is fun and there’s some flirting and he is clean and smells nice (don’t overdo the aftershave) then I might feel a little fanny flutter. By the time we get naked I’m in to whatever is going on and I’m not grading parts of him out of 10.
I assume the reverse is true. If we like each other and there is a spark fully clothed then he’ll enjoy the naked version. I’m warm, soft and I smell nice!

@Home42 that describes me and my wife with spooky accuracy.

I'm not sure about those that say a man is grateful to have a naked woman in front of them. I think it's more excitement that they have gotten there! I'm sure women feel the same at that point too. I'm a size 14/16 so curvier, lumps and bumps but the men I've been with have never had any issues with this. And they have tended to have great shapes themselves! I think you do have to believe in yourself and if you highlight your insecurities, that's not sexy to others. My sexiest friend has more lumps and bumps but is so proud and confident and men flock to her.

As an owner of a 40 something female body, which has been seen by a not insignificant number of others, l have never had any complaints from those l have chosen to share it with.

If a man said ‘simples’ to me he’d get a good boot in the clinks.

Lol, men have just as much of a problem over 40, hard to find one without a paunch, I'm not into overweight or bald men, so what's left is in short supply. I'm not overweight or bald, so it's fair.

Most say it is part of you and if they are into you does it matter, No!
Look at the state of some of the men!

Given a free choice, I’m sure most men, me included, would prefer a younger body that hasn’t been through childbirth and didn’t have what you describe. However I and most other men then look in the mirror and realise that our days of looking at our peak are long gone too! Confidence is key.

As it has been said...Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, and therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.

Its different for everyone. I sometimes watch naked attraction. Its quite amazing the variance in bodies, especially womens. A couple of my big turn offs are loads of tattoos and piercings other than the normal ear rings etc.