Foreplay is rubbish :-( help

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Hi
I have a dp who i love, sex in itself is good but my god foreplay is rubbish. He pays practically no attention to my body other than fingering, i kiss him all over, give him blow job, hand job ... i enjoy pleasing him. he is much more attractive than i am, insanely fit & wonder if that has something to do with it. I enjoy pentrative sex with him, but rarely get to orgasm :-( Im starting to think hes just not attracted to me. He says he loves me everyday, is a kind caring man, great with my ds & we have loads in common. Its just this small thing which is niggling at me. We had sex this morning & he was all that was amazing, he was well satisfied, i didnt say anything as i didnt want to hurt him & hes got a lot of stress in his life right now, but all i could think was yep for you ... how do i improve this without hurting him?
Thanks all ideas welcome!

Educate him

Tell him what you like and what you'd like him to do to you. You don't have to be critical of his performance so far. Just casually mention "I'd really love it if you would..." You might feel comfortable dropping it into conversation over dinner or wait until you're just about to get down to business.

Another option is to just guide his hand to where you want it or show him how you pleasure yourself. I don't think many men would object to a woman saying "Like this..." and showing them!

Make the appropriate encouraging noises when he gets it right. If it's good, tell him afterwards... "That thing you did felt amazing!"

In my experience, men appreciate clear direction rather than trying to figure it out themselves!

The longer you leave this the worse it will become. Communicate! Show him what you like. And be direct, say to him “down you go”.

If you are not ready for second base, tell him so and say you want longer before entry.

You need to be really honest with him, and as soon as possible. It will just get more awkward the longer you leave it. I would just come out with it in conversation, something like "I really love having sex with you, but I would like more foreplay, as it feels really one sided when we have sex" its blunt and to the point. Is he a a fairly new partner?

Thanks everyone, we have been together a year, i keep wanting to say something but the time never seems right & i dont want to hurt him.
Some good pointers here thank you.

I think it's have to tell him what you want or this is dead in the water.

Please let us know how it goes.

I think often women find that even if a bloke is told what he wants and does it for a bit, he often reverts to his own habits. In which case, you'll have to consider moving on I think.