Hi, oh this is hard to write!
Had a masectomy/ kids etc so don’t feel so attractive. Also have a prolapse of sorts, so have gone off putting a willy up there 😃
Hubby not generally affectionate but doesn’t get that I’d like hugs etc through the day - Anyway last night he suggested I come to his room, asked me to help him put the sheet on, duvet all crumpled, no pillow..He sort of moves in, but am so not interested. I think it’s cos he looks like he’s in his own fantasy land and not actually bothered about me. He did say he loves me, and I said, ‘you just want to get sex!’ And he said, after a pause, ‘ is that so wrong’ In a jokey way. Anyway I usually just retreat into my own fantasy but really couldn’t be arsed.
After sex he usually talks immediately about the kids which I find wierd.
Then I go back to my room because he listens to radio all night.
Writing this out it doesn’t sound much fun tbh. Reading another post on good in bed where the poster said hubby tells her how gorgeous she is and takes an interest in her body. Am keen to up the ante, or learn what to do, but I dunno. Think it might be different if he at least came into my room and chatted and cuddled and showed an interest. Going to help him tuck the sheet in while he got out the shower wasn’t the most sexy thing ever. Guess am just generally asking for any thoughts, advice.